Bottle refusal-xp

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Bottle refusal-xp

I'm heading back to work full time next week and my LO isn't taking a bottle...

I'm to blame as I didn't give her one until this week at 9 weeks. The past couple of days I've gone into work for a few hours and she won' t take any milk from Dh. He tries to squeeze it into her mouth, but she will only take an ounce, maybe.

Will she starve? Is there a particular bottle your breastfed baby likes?

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Sounds like my issue with Ivy – and you know what? She didn’t starve!

Actually, she never took a bottle, even when I tried at the “right” time to introduce a bottle.

We tried various things:
- different types of bottles (every kind in the store)
- eye-dropper
- syringe
- spoon
- cup

What ended up working at first (through lots of fighting with DH) was a small baby-syringe (5ml? From the pharmacy) he’d stick it in the back of her mouth and have it go down her throat. She didn’t like it, but it went down without choking her…

Then she graduated to a small cup – the kind that they give pills to people in at the doctor’s office that are plastic and about 1” across and 1” deep.

Some days he gave up and just came to meet me at lunch so I could nurse her.

I know some people who just had babies who starved themselves until mom came home after a full day of day care.

Now, I hope that none of these is what happens to you.

The first thing that I figured out is that it’s very helpful to not wait until she is starving before you feed her, so when trying to introduce something new, breastfeed her briefly, and then try feeding with whatever else it is you are using. Be consistent. Keep trying the same thing for a few days until either she gets used to it, or you decide it absolutely won’t work.

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((HUGS)) As if you need any other stressors when returning to work post-baby......

My dd was the same way-- I spent a good $100 on various bottles/nipples, etc. In the end the only bottle she would take was the Born Free bottles.

We did a few "bootcamp" days before I went back to work-- where I left the house and dh spent the entire day doing nothing other than try to feed Lexi with some bottle. After a few of those, she caught on. She never loved her bottle, but she'd accept it.


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That's tought- I had been warned to keep my baby drinking at least one bottle a week so he didn't "forget how it works"... but then when he was about 2 months old I forgot for a few weeks and sure enough he completely lost his ability to use a bottle.

It wasn't until my mom came down when he was 11 months old that we figured out a bottle solution (yay, great, just a few months before he was weaned). We used Playtex Drop in bottles- the bottle has no hard bottom because the drop-in keeps the milk in--- meaning you can push your finger up the bottle of the bottom to squeeze/push on the drop-in to FORCE milk out whether baby is sucking or not. Once we did that a few times (at the time he was old enough to try with watered down apple juice, or nesquik, since that was yummier than my milk, gave him more incentive), he finally figured out "oh hey, liquid is coming out of this bottle, if I suck I get more". Whether he sucked on the nipple or not, we could push up through the bottom to make milk get into his mouth.

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:bighug: She won't starve! She might try holding out for you to come home, but if she's hungry enough, she'll eat, don't worry about that. We've only ever used Avent bottles, I like their wide nipple, it helps keep baby's mouth in a good latch position.

Your DH might just need to play around with things. Some babies insist on being held in a nursing position to take a bottle, some want to be held completely different than if they were nursing, and some refuse to be held & take their bottles in a bouncy chair or while sitting in a high chair. Also make sure the temperature is right, it's apparently a common mistake for dads to overheat the milk because the "just right" temp feels too cool to them; the "just right" temp is when he won't be able to feel it on his wrist.

Here's how we introduced a bottle. Taking a bottle is stressful for baby, it doesn't feel, taste or smell like Mama does, and even though it's the same milk, it's not coming out of the warm, soft, snuggly body that he's used to. So it's not so much introducing a bottle as it is minimizing the stress, kwim? The first step is that I was always gone. Baby knows you have the real stuff! First day, DH gave a not-hungry baby a bottle (with a couple of ounces, not too much) to play with. After a while, baby sucks on the bottle, and discovers a tasty treat. Blum 3 Next day, DH introduced the bottle just before baby would be hungry. This can be a bit tricky to time, but it's important. You want baby to get used to the idea of taking a bottle without the additional stress of being hungry, kwim? Repeat this step once or twice, before moving on to giving baby a bottle when he is hungry.

Hope you all have a nice, smooth transition to your new schedule!