I have a friend who has had three c-sections and proudly gloats that in her 40s after three kids, she can jump on the trampoline with her kids or sneeze while squatting and has no trouble at all with incontinence, thanks to her c-sections. And it's true that after six vaginal births, I have terrible stress incontinence - heck, it was bad after #3 & 4 (twins), so I've been dealing with this for quite a while. I have no doubt that eventually I'll have to have surgery to correct this problem - ain't no amount of kegels going to help at this point.
What bugs me is not knowing what to say when she says stuff like this. Because there's truth to it, you know?
Honestly, do you really care? Give the girl something to feel proud of, what does it hurt you? I'm proud I have no stretch marks and a 6 pack, should that bother people with stretch marks or a fat stomach? She also has a large scar and underwent major surgery several times. Does that make you feel better?
I'd say "Thats AWESOME! Peeing myself sucks".
I've got so serious lack of bladder control that no kegels seem to help either. Sometimes though I question it being to blame only on the vaginal birth I had or the horrible catheter being forcefully put in and then ripped out. I swear that stupid thing screwed up things down there more than birthing any baby ever did. Oh, and that catheter was was during my 1st birth which ended as a c/s.
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Yeah, I'm with Melis. Let her have that one.
It always takes me about a year PP to get my pelvic floor back in shape.....here's hoping everything comes back after #5. But it takes work. For the first year I start leaking anytime I run more than about a mile.....lol. And I just have to stop and think before I sneeze....but I can usually get it back with some effort.
Have you read anything about the French and how they care for women PP? What a good idea!
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If that alone could persuade someone to undergo major surgery to give birth, they can have it!
I would assume this is true when you have a c/s without labor because after my first two which were labors followed by a c/s I did have to work really hard at getting my muscles down there back in shape.
You could talk about what an amazing experience it is to have a vaginal birth. . .
Well, I've had two c/s and I'm still having trouble with incontinence since Weston was born. OMG, it seemed like he was *on* my bladder from day one! I think it's more a matter of how you carry the baby & how big the baby is, than how the baby comes out. Also, age & gravity & body mass probably have a lot to do with it, too. Tell your friend to just wait a few years.
Also, pass along this study, which looked at urinary incontinence among a group of nuns who had never been pregnant, they found similar rates among them as among women who gave birth either vaginally or by c/s.
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And I pee myself regularly... two natural and 2 sections... so... I am not sure how much truth there is behind that? I have BIG babies and gain a lot during pregnancy. I would think that would cause more bladder drama than actual "birthing."
Sorry, but I believe peeing yourself is as much a rite of passage as the scars you earn from the pregnancy I pee and I am PROUD!