Hey Everyone- My name is Claire. I have been lurking for awhile and I posted awhile back with lots of questions for everyone about their birth experiences. I was trying to decide whether or not I was going to really try and go all natural with this baby's birth. I have talked to DH about it ALOT( I wanted to make sure he was on board 100 %)and talked to lots of other friends that have done it and I am happy to say that I plan on my next birth being an all natural one. I just wanted to introduce myself since I have been hanging around reading posts and Birth Lodges and starting to feel more informed and confident that I can do this. I have never tried it before. I have always gone into labor knowing I would just get an epidural when the pain got intense. I decided the last time that I would never ever get one again. There is something about being stuck in a bed, not being able to move your legs, not being able to tell what your body needs or is doing that greatly frustrated me last time. (Acutally both times, but I guess last time pissed me off enough to make a change.) I have just felt very compelled to try things differently and I believe I can do it. So I am excited to join you. I am only 18 weeks pregnant so I have lots of time to make a birth plan and figure out my options. Right now I plan on doing a hospital delievery and sticking with my OB. I trust my OB with my life and my child's life and we have a good relationship. She said that they will do everything possible to help me do it without drugs. I would like to get a tour of the hospital even though I have delievered there before just to ask them some questions from a new perspective. I am nervous about delivering there rather than our local birth center, but like I said, I LOVE my OB and I trust her so right now that is my plan. I just need to figure out what technique(s) I am going to use to help me thru the labor & delivery. Thx for reading: I know this got a little long.
May I suggest you look into finding a doula to help you with your plan? Things can get pretty intense and a support peron who is with you all the time can be indispensable.
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Welcome!! I, too, am going natural for the first time - my first two births were inductions with epidurals. I also am sticking with a hospital birth and sticking with my OB, whom I trust and love, and who has said that he will support my decision to go as natural as possible.
I did hire a doula this time around, though. I figure that having someone there who is strictly there to support me and my choices can only increase my odds of a successful natural birth, and who may help me stand up to hospital staff and my OB if need be.
So you're definitely not alone! I look forward to getting to know you!
I told my DH that I thought I NEEDED a doula to be able to get thru it at the hospital. Our hospital is pretty friendly to mothers who take the natural route, but I do worry that I will end up with that one nurse who keeps pushing me to get an epidural or the one jerk Dr in my practice who doesn't listen to my wishes. My DH said he won't let them do anything we don't want, but since neither one of us have experienced this before I think it's a good idea to have extra support from someone who does this with women all the time.
Welcome! I think a doula might be a good idea for you as well. Your DH might get too nervous in the end to stand up to a doctor who is possibly stretching the truth a little bit about you needing drugs or whatnot. It will also allow your DH to just be with you and support you but not feel like he's the only one you are depending on.
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Welcome! I just had my first natural birth after 2 epidural births (one was augmented and one was a cervidil induction) Anyways, I found that natural birth amazing. I had a home birth and I also had a doula. I would highly recommend getting a doula if you plan to be in the hospital. It's just another person to advocate for your wishes and also support you and your DH.
Kristin - Mom to 3 little boys and one baby girl
With my son I really wanted a natural birth, but in the end I learned I just wasn't as prepared as I could have been. I had read a lot, but hadn't really done much else which hurts when your birth in a hospital setting. This time I'm doing the hypnobabies home study (no classes near us). I'm working on trying to find a doula that will travel to the city we live in and to the city where the hospital is that I'll give birth (no local doulas, all are at the hospital city and don't really want to travel here or aren't free). After my experiences with my son I do encourage others to take a true natural childbirth class or get a doula who will work with you beforehand and during the whole labor (or both!). I found it hard to stay calm to think through what I knew to help myself and well my husband was useless then (not his fault, he truly didn't have time to learn a darn thing to be helpful). I'm surrounding myself with positive beautiful natural birth stories this time as well - nothing "mainstream" America allowed! Congrats!!!
I echo everyone who said "get a doula". Continuous support is essential! Hubbies are great to have with you, but I found when the going got tough I NEEDED my mom with me. She was a labour coach for years and knew how to support a labouring woman. It was very important to me to have her there for the constant support.
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Hi and welcome!!
I'll tack on a ditto for the doula. I was stubbornly determined to have a natural birth, my DH was 1000% on board, I took Hypnobirthing classes, and I read every book under the sun. Still, I reached a point during my labor when I probably would have asked for an epidural had that option been available to me at my birth center. Your state of mind matters just as much (if not more) than the willingness of your birth team to push for your natural birth. Simply having the option there for you might push you to ask for it and its likely that you'll need someone there to really work with you to keep you going. Someone who has seen all that before, who isn't nervous, and for who the success of your natural birth actually matters. Your OB and the nurses might swear up and down that they'll support you in natural birth but when it comes down to it they're unlikely to actively work with you to achieve it. A doula will.
I also recommend that you go visit the birth center. Maybe take a natural birthing class there (many offer such things). It can't hurt and it might just change your mind.