So my doula came by yesterday for the postpartum visit and continued to give me great support and advice towards not only my own self-care, but my baby's care.
If you read my birth story, you know that I believe it would have not gone very well had she not been there. She was absolutely amazing.
When the visit was over, I went to write her a check (she has one of those scales or whatever that she charges between one amount and another. I asked her what I could write the check for and planned to write the check for $250 OVER whatever she asked for, I was that happy with having her there for my son's birth!) But she refused to give me an amount and told me she doesn't want anything but to be a blessing to my family. All I have paid her is the $350 deposit from when we signed the contract.
Do you have any suggestions for what I can do? Could I mail cash to her house? Give her gift cards? I have the feeling that even if I sent her a check, she would not cash it. Or is this the kind of thing where they don't give you an amount because they want you to decide for yourself what to pay? I am very flustered! Shortly after my son was born, I actually told DH I wanted to pay her twice whatever she asked for!!! I totally believe I would not have made it to the hospital and things would have gotten very messy and ugly without her there. (And we were very much NOT prepared for a home birth!)