Cue word for DH

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Cue word for DH

Hi everyone, I'm 37 weeks and doing fairly well with my HypnoBabaies scripts. However, my DH is struggling with is birth partner script. He's been listening to it for 3 weeks, and still hasn't been able to come up with a cue word. I am wondering if you could suggest some that you have heard or used. I haven't offered any to him as of yet, because I wanted it to be "his" word, but I think it's time I give some suggestions. Thanks for all the help. -Marie

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We didn't have the birth partner script (I think it only comes with the homestudy course if you buy it on Amazon, and I didn't). I remember Sheridan (http://www.enjoybirth.com) saying that her DH just used "peace" because she knew he'd be hearing it during her birthing time, since she'd be using it for her own comfort.

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I don't remember my DH needing to come up with his own cue word. He used the same "peace" and "release" cue words that were in the scripts I was listening to.

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We have the birth partner scripts with the used homestudy course from hypnobabies. DH is not into doing the scripts. I am just planning on using my iPod and have my doula do the "relax" thing on the shoulder.

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He could use one of the cue words you use for his own Birth Partner's cue: Relax, Release, or Peace. It could be something else, though, too like: blue, cookie, motorcycle.... Smile

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I did Hypnobirthing but we also had a cue and DH had a word and he would put his hand in my hip. He just used relax. It worked really well. Most of the time he would say relax and be comfortable and as soon as he did i forgot i was having a contraction. lol.

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Just to clarify, Marie, you're talking about the cue word for the birth partner as part of the "birth partner relax and be confident" script, right? The cue would be for him, not for you, to help him feel calm and confident during your birthing. I jusit wanted to explain for people who don't know, since that CD is optional for the hypnobabies homestudy.

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"MrsMangoBabe" wrote:

Just to clarify, Marie, you're talking about the cue word for the birth partner as part of the "birth partner relax and be confident" script, right? The cue would be for him, not for you, to help him feel calm and confident during your birthing. I jusit wanted to explain for people who don't know, since that CD is optional for the hypnobabies homestudy.

I was about to comment on this as well. In Hypnobabies there are cue words that the Birth Partner says to the hypno-mom for her comfort. There is also a script for the Birth Partner to listen to for himself in which he creates for himself a word that he can say to feel more calm and confident. Smile

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Oh yes, the cue word for ME to use when I needed more from HIM was "penguin." If I said the word penguin in any kind of way, my DH (and my MIL who was my doula, and my midwife) was supposed to clue in to that meant I needed *more* of something.

And then I also had a cue word for epidural which was "iceberg" which theoretically meant that if I said I wanted an epidural it didn't mean anything unless I said I wanted an iceberg. And that probably would have been important if I'd been laboring at a hospital. But the way things worked out, I transferred to the hospital specifically to get an epidural along with Pitocin to try to finish dilating my cervix, so the cue word was unnecessary.

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Thanks for the info. Yes, I meant he needed a word to cue HIM to relax. He seems to want his own word, and has ruled out Relax or Release or Peace. But hasn't come up with anything as good.

Had a great class tonight though. We did a birth visualization and went through from early stages to holding the baby. It really really helped DH and I. We've both agreed to practice that one more, since it has helped more than any other.