I think he is uncomfortable with going to a Birthing Center for some reason. I am working on him though. LOL. I did find a hospital that does water births. I am stoked. It is 30 to 45 mins away though. Is that excessive? I think I could cave to a hospital birth there. Then if I chicken out again I have the option of an epi. I do know now that I want a midwife so that I can try for the natural birth I want. I am having a hard time finding midwives around here though. It there is a nurse practitioner/midwife at a doctors office do you still have the chance someone else would deliver the baby?
11/2012, 12/2012, 2/2013
For my first birth, the hospital we chose was an hour from the house we were living in. I was able to drive 45 minutes to my dad's house, labor there a while, and then head the last 15 to the hospital. I don't think an hour's drive is too long (unless you have really short labors), but you will want to make sure you leave early enough that the drive isn't unbearable. Also, there was no way I was going to sit in a seat during any of those drives... I knelt/did hands and knees in the back seat, and was *almost* as comfortable as I had been on hands and knees in the bed at home.
I had a CNM for that birth at the hospital, and their rule was that the midwives did all your care and attended the delivery (personally, my view is that *I* delivered the baby, not the midwife!), and you never see the supporting OB unless there is an issue. And that is exactly what happened for me. I never saw him. Now, I got lucky and got the midwife I had seen the most/loved...but she was one of I think 3 or 4 in the office, and any one of them could have been on call when I went into labor.
Good luck finding what you're looking for!
Mara & Joel, 2009
Show him this article Good for skeptics!
My BC was a 25 minute drive--I could totally have gone farther if I had to. It will mean you will probably want to head in a little sooner than you could if it was closer, but not a huge deal.
Can't speak to the likelihood of who will deliver your baby, because I'm sure it totally depends on the practice. My BC had the midwives on a rotating schedule and it was just luck of the draw. The one who delivered me was the ONE I had never met, but it didn't matter at all...I loved her and she helped me have a great birth.
All of my boys have been born at hospitals that were about 30-45 minutes away....that is what happens when you live in the country. I don't think that is excessive at all. Although I do have to say that I did wait too long with my last one and delivered his head in the car--not recommended. Good luck trying to convince your DH!
Chase-13, Trey-11, Layton-9, Zander-5, McKay-3, Declan-1, Keely born 9/6/2012
I'm 25 minutes from the hospital I deliver at. I'm about 2 minutes away from my local hospital but I wouldn't have a baby there on a dare. So, no I don't think it's excessive at all. When I had my last baby we lived 10 minutes farther from the hospital so it was a 35 minute drive.
You might consider hiring a doula if you're committed to birthing naturally. It would be a great support for you, and you can use a doula whether you're using a m/w or an ob.
Deb ................. DH Norm
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DS Isaiah, 8 ......... DS Thomas, 7
DD Cherish, 6....... DD Emily, 7\18\13 ....... Ripple, 17
William, 14 weeks, 4/11/12
In labor & birth, the one who needs to be the most comfortable is the mom. His job is to help make you comfortable, and if that means that *he* might be a bit more uncomfortable, then he needs to suck it up & do whatever you need him to do for you to be comfortable. When it's his turn to carry & birth a baby, that's when he can make the decisions that make him most comfortable.
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For most 30-45 minutes should be fine. Never having had to drive during labour, I’m not much help. I do know, however, that when my labour hits (at least the last 3 times), it’s instantly full-on intense contractions 1-3 minutes apart. The last time was the first time I had warning that I was in labour, but it went minor questionable contractions from 7-20 minutes apart to 3 minutes instantly, but only after about 10 hours. There is no way that I would want to get in a vehicle with contractions 3 or less minutes apart, and at 7-20 minutes there’s no point in going anywhere since they can stay that way for days.
As well, once I start getting contractions 3 minutes apart, labour is usually no more than an hour.
In other words, I’m glad I’m not trying to time things with a ride to the hospital. In fact timing a phone call to the midwife so she can get there in time is hard enough! 2 out of 3 times the back-up arrived just as or right after baby was born, and once, there was no backup! And yes, I’m talking about my first birth too!
The most important thing DH needs to understand is that the more comfortable you are, the less chance there is of requiring any interventions. So, essentially, it’s not about where HE feels comfortable, it’s about where YOU feel comfortable.
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The hospital I'm choosing to go to is an hour away. There is one 10 minutes from my house, but you couldn't pay me to go there. So to another city it is!