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    I know Im not posting here much yet. I just found out some disappointing news on Wednesday. I went to my midwife for a check up. Ive been having blood pressure issues for the last few weeks (had hypertension before getting pregnant). She measured my blood pressure and it was 162/100. At that point my midwife said that I really shouldnt be in her care anymore and should be followed by an OB. Now, while I know this is the best decision for me and baby, I cant help but feel upset at the fact that I cant have a midwife. Ive wanted one since before I got pregnant. I was so upset I cried for a good 30 minutes after my appointment (sooo blaming the hormones on that).

    Im still planning on a natural birth, but I kind of feel like it may be more of a struggle for me to keep strong. I had a student doula with my DS. I ended up with 2 shots of fenynol, which I do not regret. Im just more worried about having high blood pressure, being put at a higher risk of pre-e, and the possibility of being induced because of it.

    Im just all around confused an upset now. Ive got time to adjust, and I see my doctor next Thursday to see where to go from there. Im also looking into my options of a doula again, but Im not sure if we can afford the 600-800 for one.

    If you got through this, you deserve a medal. I just need to get some thoughts out.
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    Get the doula. That's what I would do. You may find a student doula who will charge less but be a super help at your side. Ask around. Perhaps your former doula has some ideas. Take charge of the situation so you feel in control. You can still have a great birthing experience!

    By the way, work on the blood pressure issue. What you eat and added exercise can really help! Talk to your doctor about this too. Every bit helps! Make walking a part of each day.
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    Sorry about the BP and the need for an OB, I'm sure it's disappointing.

    I agree with Gardenbug though, do whatever you can to get a doula if possible. Also - try to find an OB who will be supportive of your decision to have an NCB.

    Also - check out the Brewers diet, it can be very successful in managing your BP.

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    . I don't blame you for being disappointed, but like you said, you have a lot of time to adjust. You can still totally have the natural birth you want. I had my first in a hospital with an OB with some high-risk issues (mostly preterm labor issues)... and still had the birth I wanted. Especially now that you've done this before, you can be an even better advocate for yourself.
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    I wouldn't blame you at all for being disappointed.

    Have you considered chiropractic care for the high BP along with seeing the OB? I know that my chiro has helped others control their BP. He is also big into nutrition to help control problems so he does a combination of nutrition counseling and chiro adjustments.

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    Sorry to hear about the BP issue. That is disappointing that you can't continue with your MW. Shop around and find a great OB that supports NCB. You have a while still so try saving up for that doula to help support you during labor. Hope there are some things you can do to control the BP during pregnancy.
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    PP had a lot of good ideas! hang in there and . It's so hard to hear that your birthing plan can't be exactly what you want.
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    I'm really sorry to hear about this. I love midwives, but I had a very excellent OB for my most recent birth--sometimes the letters behind the name don't really matter. Good luck getting your BP down. I've heard diet and exercise will help, as well as practicing relaxation.

    As a doula stuent myself, I recommend looking for a student doula. I also know there are some doulas who are willing to do fees on a sliding scale or even barter because most doulas are passionate about helping women have good birth experiences.
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    I second what everyone else has said! Especially the Brewer's Diet. Increasing your protein and salt intake (among having a healthy diet otherwise) can greatly reduce your blood pressure and risk of developing pre-e. Check it out.

    A student doula would be more affordable and still be able to help. My sister was recently able to get a list of student doulas from a doula practicing in her area. So you can try that. Or you can try to contact someone who recently taught a local workshop (for DONA) and see if they'll give you a list of the students in her class.

    Good luck!!
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    Thanks for the kind words and suggestions ladies. I'm still on the fence about a doula. I've done a bit of looking around and there are some in my area that do the sliding scale. I will also look into a student doula again. I'm not so sure I need the support as much as someone to help advocate for me and help me understand decisions I may need to make.
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