I will begin by saying I have a lovely husband. He is beyond helpful and is a very hands-on father. But.....when it comes to birth, he is really uninvolved and I get the impression he is uncomfortable with taking an active role in it. The really disappoints me. When Zoe was born he said he didn't even want to cut the cord for fear of doing something wrong. He did end up cutting it and being much more comfortable than he expected, but this time he is again becoming distant whenever birthing comes up. He does not want to watch any informative DVDs, makes excuses to not participate in our meetings with the doula, and has not wanted to practice any labor positions with me.
I know I need to just confront him about it. I think it is not about him being a jerk, but it's about him feeling uncomfortable or like it's not his place to intervene. It's come to a point though where I cannot just let it go. In a week I will be full-term and I want him to at least be able to know how to attempt to help and support me. If I say nothing, it will suck for both of us.
I'm not really looking for advice, just had to get it out there since it's been bothering me for awhile now.