Thread: Disgusted by the advice..

A woman I semi-know wants to try for a VBAC and it seems like the advice she is getting is very "c-section friendly." One pointed out that they have been doing c-sections safely for thousands of years. (WHAT?)

Oh my god -- please save me from going a bit postal on the ignorance.

If you have any VBAC friendly word of advice, or statistics on natural birthing.. please inform here so I can pass them on.

Much better.

Anyways, advice: I would refer her to http://ican-online.org/. ICAN has TONS of great statistics and advice.

Allison...all you can do is try to give her sound advice and the facts. People are always going to say what they think is right. Yes, it is bothersom when someone gives misinformation. But like you said, all a person can do is research and gain knowledge on the subject. I think everything you put is sound advice.

This is why I generally take a back seat at this point in pregnancy on such mainstream BB's. If someone is truly set on having a VBAC they will find their way to the truth. (lol, I sound like a religious person, haha!)

I hear ya though. Frustrating.

Jooniper -- I re-wrote my post. Thank you for the advice, as you are right! I let my anger and disgust get to me and wasn't thinking about the rules.

Originally Posted by MommyHopeful3

Allison...all you can do is try to give her sound advice and the facts. People are always going to say what they think is right. Yes, it is bothersom when someone gives misinformation. But like you said, all a person can do is research and gain knowledge on the subject. I think everything you put is sound advice.

What is sad is that a lot of people don't even RESEARCH. They take what is sad to them as fact (without question). Even if logic seems to be lacking in advice!

Originally Posted by JorgieGirl

This is why I generally take a back seat at this point in pregnancy on such mainstream BB's. If someone is truly set on having a VBAC they will find their way to the truth. (lol, I sound like a religious person, haha!)

I hear ya though. Frustrating.

You are so right about that. It's towards the end when people start talking about how they are giving birth -- and seeing the elective c-sections because they LIKE choosing the date makes me want to just cry a little (or a lot).

Allison- I completely understand your frustration. I have had many, many discussions where my choice to VBAC and this time VBA2C were called into question by people completely ignorant on the subject. I know how frustrated you are, I really do, especially on a touchy subject like VBAC.

http://www.ican-online.org/vbac/figh...rrent-research

Above is a really good article from ICAN about VBAC's and RCS.

http://www.ican-online.org/vbac/post...-vaginal-birth

This is another good one.

Both articles cite the research used to write the article and it is good solid research. I've looked up many of the studies myself and read through them.

All you can do is put the information out there and hope people decide to inform themselves.

Ignorance isn't bliss, it's dangerous!!

As a VBAC successful Mama now excited about my upcoming HBAC all I do is share my personal story and//or excitement about my birth in a positive "here is how I felt" sort of way, allow no judgment to creep in, and offer links or books that I read in my research. I ask respect from my friends for my birthing choices, and I award them the same respect in making their choices. Honestly I do see why some people choose RCS, even if I cannot fathom making that choice myself.

Originally Posted by JorgieGirl

This is why I generally take a back seat at this point in pregnancy on such mainstream BB's. If someone is truly set on having a VBAC they will find their way to the truth. (lol, I sound like a religious person, haha!)

I hear ya though. Frustrating.

I agree with this. I mean...I found my way here

And I am also doing my blog thing this time around. So I am trying to collect information. I am more talking about my thoughts on everything than I amtalking about facts though.