Thread: "do you need to go to a doctor?"

Long story short (for the back story)...I had some bleeding last Tuesday (the 13th), which turned out to be nothing to worry about - MW found baby's heartbeat, U/S showed no bleeding or anything...probably just low lying placenta. Since then, I have been having brown, pink/red spotting...like even after it stopped completely from the initial bleeding, I will go a couple days of nothing and then have spotting again. So the MW's said at this point, probably just cervix, since i am not having cramping, etc.

I was talking to my parents tonight and mentioned that the spotting is back again today...what does my dad say "do you need to go to a doctor?" With a tone that insinuated "do these midwives know what they are doing?" UGH! So many of my family members question my choice...even if they are not outright, blatantly questioning it.

ugh

I'm sorry you're feeling like your choices are not being supported. Doctors don't have any magical powers to stop 1st trimester bleeding. I had bleeding with my DD and I was seeing an OB and he didn't do anything more than what your MW did.

I'm so sorry that your parents are questioning the trust you have in your MW and care. So frustrating. Brittany is right, an OB wouldn't have a magic wand that would do anything more than any MW would do. I wish your parents could see that too. Hope your spotting stops soon.

I'm sorry you're spotting. I'll send you some placenta nudging vibes.

It's so frustrating when people don't believe that MW's provide excellent care. Even more frustrating when people you care about can't simply trust your decisions. An OB would have done the very same thing or could've even attempted to "treat" you, causing more problems.

I had spotting all through the first 20 or so weeks, funnily enough it was only a midwife who suggested anything further than oh well some people bleed. I was in ED after having a heavy spotting episode, and the midwife they called down for a consult said they should test for infection. My GP who had been seeing me up until that point wouldn't check for anything. Doctors are not all knowing, I love seeing the midwives, I actually feel like they listen and care, it just sucks I had to wait 20 weeks to see them (fairly standard in the town I live in)

Friends and family are not the ones having the baby. Stay strong and confident in the decisions you have researched and made.

Sorry about that. I got the same thing from my MIL. I think a lot of people just don't understand what a midwife is and how they are trained medical professionals. Mine can do everything except a c-section.

How frustrating!

What I've learned stumps people is to respond with, "What would a doctor do differently?" no one ever has an answer