To doula or not to doula: that is the question!

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To doula or not to doula: that is the question!

Now that I'm pregnant, I actually get to REALLY get my hands dirty with this whole natural child birth thing! I had given an intro a while back.

I'm Pamela, and the delivery of DS was a nightmare to say the least. I was induced for BP issues and was in labor for nearly 40 hours, having pitocin, numerous IV pokes, 2 epidurals (both which failed!) an episomedy and a 3rd degree tear. :eek: needless to say, it was quite stressful.

So this time, I'd really like to deliver natural- since I pretty much did it last time with the most extreme pain conditions anyway. The leader of my bible study is a doula and I was just looking for feed back on if people have used them before. I will be delivering in a hospital, so I think I would like the support to help me keep my head on straight when things get rough!

Any stories you'd like to share about your doula experiences would be wonderful! Thanks! Smile

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We have at least 3 doulas posting in this group. I am a doula and I say you should get one (suprise huh, lol). Having someone there to just support you really is invaluable. A doula's job is to provide emotional and physical support to the birthing parents. As a doula I have done things from taking pictures, massage, counter pressure, giving advice on positions and just general emotional support. Doulas are trained in natural birth techniques that will really help you. Espeically in a hospital setting. Good luck!

http://doulamatch.net/

is a great site for finding doula. Most doula's I know do free inital consultations so you can meet with them and see if you like them before you pay.

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I had a doula and she made all the difference! She supported me, supported my husband in supporting me, and also spoke up once or twice becase she knew what my wishes were and hospital staff were straying from them. A friend of mine had the same doula attend her first birth, and now she's pregnant for a second time. I asked her if she would have the same doula again, and she response was, "I wouldn't give birth without her." That just gives you an idea about how much a good doula is worth.

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I had a doula for my first delivery and I really feel like it helped me get through the pitocin induction. I ended in a c/s but I know that it was not because we didn't do everything in our power to make a birth happen. I was proud that I made it to the OR table before getting anything for pain, and I attribute that to her helping me through everything. I would strongly recommend having one.

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I say DOULA!! I would never go without one again.

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I've never had one, but I would say that all the positive support you can get will be awesome. I wanted a natural birth with my second. No one in the room supported me in that, kept pushing for the drugs, etc. I ended up with an epidural. I am hurt that no one had faith in me. A doula would have.

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We hired a doula when we were planning our natural VBAC. I didn't get to use her during my labor because it only lasted 2 hours and I ended up giving birth in the car no where close to making it to the hospital. But she came to the hospital once we got there and stayed with me during the tear repairs, and I can tell how wonderful she would have been had I actually been able to use her for the labor. She was awesome! Since I did my birth medication free, I didn't want anything duing the repairs, and I think the repairs were more painful than the birth! She brought me juice to drink, and kept offering me sips. She reminded me to use my hypnobabies breathing, and she stayed with me and allowed my husband to be occupied with and bond with the baby for part of the repair (about half the time she was with him, the other half she was on me skin to skin and/or nursing). My doula was wonderful, I was so glad I had her there. I can't believe I gave birth the first time without one. I highly recommend one!!

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I don't have the experience with one, this birth will be my first going all natural since I'm planning a home birth; I am going to have a doula present. If I was planning on going to the hospital and wanted to go fully natural I wouldn't even think twice about hiring one, I think a doula would be so very beneficial in a hospital setting because of the non stop positive support in a setting that can sometimes be lacking in it. I think had I used a doula with my first birth I probably would have (even though I was induced) had someone there reminding me of my wishes of going natural (even though I wasn't opposed to an epi back then) and I probably would have been able to do it.

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With my first birth, I didn't want anyone but DH there. HA, after the back labor kicked in, I truly understood the worth of having a doula there. or ANY other positive person for that matter Smile

DH had to run around and do last minute things as well as time my contractions, make me something to eat, take care of the dogs, etc. I needed him with me rubbing my back. If we had a doula, they could have taken turns doing all that needed to be done and helping me!

We will most definitely have someone this time Smile

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I say go with a doula. I've not had one but did have my MW's transfer with me to the hospital this time and they acted as a doula would have. The support they gave was amazing and they were able to be my voice when I couldn't use my own. I think any extra labor support from someone like a doula is very worth it.

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Always doula! As a DONA doula-in-training I cannot even begin to describe how much a doula can make a difference in your birth experience.

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Thank you for all the suggestions girls!! I'm glad to hear such positive things about a doula (not that I had much doubt). As I said, my bible study leader is a doula so I know where to find one Smile I'm excited to have the support. Dh is a GREAT husband/father, but sometimes he lacks that "supportive" quality". My L&D with DS lasted nearly 40 hours and by the end DH just didn't know what more to do for me. It has us both frustrated and I pushed my brains out because I just wanted it done. My whole situation was so tense and for ME and DH it would have been nice to have someone walking us through it and just reminding us to breathe. I think having a doula present this time will really help us both!

When do you normally get hooked up with someone?? (gestation wise)

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"MrsHooah2U" wrote:

When do you normally get hooked up with someone?? (gestation wise)

I started looking around 30 weeks (which you won't have to do). . .I didn't meet with my doula until 36 weeks, and then we met again one more time before I went into labor. She also came to see me after the birth even though it ended in a c/s.

I would suggest talking to your bible study teacher to see how soon she would want to commit. . .they don't want too many possibly going into labor at the same time IYKWIM.

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our doula made a WORLD of difference for my DS's delivery. I had a natural hospital delivery, and because of our doula we were able to comfortably labor at home and wait to head to the hospital for a WHILE, which made a difference in not having to "fight" for what I had in my birth plan at the hospital. When we checked into the hospital I was already 9 cm, and my DS was born about 2 hours later. She played a nice role in helping me but also in coaching DH on how to help me. I mostly hired a doula since i knew I might be up against a fight for what I wanted at the hospital...didn't end up that way since we labored at home for a great deal of it...but if I didn't have her there, I would have headed to the hospital at least 4 hours earlier. Who knows what the outcome would have been then.