Hi ladies...I don't normally post here but I've been lurking since I'm about a month away from delivery and really want to try for a natural birth. A little backstory:
DD was born 9/17/06 and I was completely unprepared for birth it being my first time. I studied Hypnobabies but I just couldn't relax at the hospital. I held out until 6-7 cm when I didn't think I could take anymore pain and got an epi. That led to contrax slowing, so pitocin and then immediately off since DD didn't do well with it. It led to a very long transition that I felt pretty much all of it and over 2 hours of painful pushing. They tried 3x with the epi and it just never really took. Being exhausted, I had to have a vacuum. Basically everything I didn't want happened short of a c sec.
This time around since I know I didn't have good luck with the epi and basically I did it naturally the first time, I figured I would try again for a natural birth. I've read several good books about positions, etc and my hospital and doc are on board with whatever I want to do. They have a squat bar for the bed as well as I can push however I want and they encourage being "vertical" as much as possible. Something my first hospital never mentioned to me and I was stuck on my back for most of the birth. Our hospital is less then 2 miles from our house, so I'm hoping to labor at home as long as possible.
Now to my question. I've met with a doula that I really like but I just can't afford her. She offered a payment plan and that may be the only way I can use her. But I'm just wondering, how critical is a doula if one wants to have a natural birth? Is it possible to do it on your own? My DH isn't really involved with the birth process. He'll be there but not coaching, cutting cords, etc. Which I am fine with.
I just don't know if I can take all of the tips I've learned from the books, knowledge that I have from last time, and sheer will and turn it into a natural birth that I can do on my own or is it that important to have a doula? What is your opinion?
Thanks for reading....sorry so long.