I know a lot of the midwife questions will be answered on Monday when I go for my consult, but I was hoping for some input from some of you experienced and BTDT ladies.
I know the midwives will take care of all my prenatal care and refer me for any necessary ultrasounds and I'm thinking a doula won't really be a necessary added expense if everything goes well and I can deliver at the birth center. However, a doula might be necessary if I end up at the hospital, even for a c/s just to have someone there specifically to stand up for my rights. The closest hospital has a de-facto ban on VBACs and doesn't have the best ratings for surgeries at all. I want to vomit just thinking about ending up there.
Anyway, there are no doulas practicing here that I can find, except one. She recently moved here and is looking to build her portfolio. She posted on a local FB group I'm on that her fee is $200 for 3 prenatal visit, labor, a post partum visit and placenta encapsulation (though I'd be fine with encapsulating it myself). So I guess what I'd like to know is, what exactly does a doula do and how much should I rely on her for? It seems almost silly to pay someone $200 just to be in the room for my birth, but I also know that some people find them priceless. I feel strongly that I could have benefited from one during DS's labor. What kinds of questions do I need to ask to find out if she's forceful and strong willed enough to really take on the the anti-vbac bullies should it come to that?
Also: If I deliver at the hospital, I will have to have a court order to keep my placenta since it is considered medical waste and they don't just release it. To get a court order for it can be pretty expensive. Should I try to get the court order in advance just in case I end up at the hospital? If I deliver at the BC, there is no court order necessary and the will happily hand it over for free.
Ugh, so many things to consider. I'm going nuts here.