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    I'm planning a natural hospital birth with a MW. The hospital allows early discharge (if the MW agrees) after a vaginal delivery and there would be a nurse home visit. I just confirmed my insurance would cover it!
    I stayed the full 48 hours with my first two. The first delivery was not a natural birth due to fetal distress. It was a rough delivery and I was barely able to stand for the first two days (terrible swelling, exhaustion). The second was a pretty easy natural delivery, but since I went into labor at 5am and wasn't able to eat during labor (believe me, I tried!) I was very lightheaded after and fainted my first time out of bed. So I was pretty much confined to bed for my stay (boo).

    This time I'm torn. I have two little boys at home who will be 3y5m and 21m when baby is born. Part of me thinks staying at the hospital would give me some time to relax, sleep, and spend time with just baby and DH... and part of me likes the idea of going home early.

    Any advice? If it's even an option, that is.
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    I've had really easy delivered and was up and about immediately after birth, but I preferred to be at home as soon as possible (which is why I had a hb this last time around). I also don't get any rest in the hospital because I don't sleep well unless I'm at home.

    Can you play it by ear and just see how it goes? If you're feeling awesome, then head home. If you're exhausted maybe stay a night or two? Is your SO helpful around the house and able to take some time off to be around those first few days?

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    that is basically the set up we had with the birth center...discharge in 4-12 hours, home visit a couple days later. my ILs kept DS1 the rest of the day/overnight and brought him back the next afternoon. if you had someone keep or at least come over to help with your DS's, that might help. I definitely got more rest at home with baby#2 (even with DS1 coming home the next day) than i ever did at the hospital for 2 days with baby #1
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    I think it would depend first on how I felt, and second on how helpful my husband would be. No sense rushing home if you're going to be jumping in to take care of everyone & everything, kwim? If he's the kind of guy who is going to make you sit on the sofa with the baby & keep your water & snack bowl filled up, and feed the kids & put them to bed, then go ahead & go home if you feel up to it. If not, enjoy your stay.

    Both my babies were c-sections. With Tiven, they cleared me to go home at 48 hours but I refused; Tiven was in ICN for at least 72 hours (for meconium inhalation) and I wasn't going to leave without her. I knew I was legally entitled to 96 hours minimum stay after a c-section, and I would have used it all if she had to stay in ICN longer. With Weston, I felt great & he was with me, and I was begging to leave at 36 hours. They strung me along to 40 hours. My DH was awesome taking care of all of us, and my midwives checked on my regularly, I knew I'd get better service at home than at the hospital.
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    I think this is one of those things you just won't know until you are there. I would say make sure you can stay longer if you want and that you can leave early if you want as well.
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    I would definitely play it by ear, that's my plan anyway. it's not like you have to decide right away or they may decide for you.

    I'm very anxious about leaving my DS as well, the only night I"ve ever spent away from him in his almost 3 years of life was when I attended my friends homebirth, and I left at his bed time anyway. Yeah I'm a big sucker for my boy lol
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    I would play it by ear. I stayed for about 24 hours after my son was born, the hospital food wasn't great, but I loved having full meals and snacks brought to me in bed! After 24 hours I felt ready to leave. This time... my other two are 4-years-old and 2-years-old and I'm a little torn. On one hand I want their lives disrupted as little as possible, on the other, I know they won't want to give me two seconds alone once I'm home... so I guess I'm going to play the wait-and-see how I feel game.

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    I'd play it by ear. You'll probably want to decide after the baby is born so that you know how you are feeling.

    I'd never left DS for a single night until DD was born. It was hard but they wouldn't discharge DD from the hospital due to me being GBS+ and only getting a single dose of antibiotics in they required monitoring for 24 hours first. There was no way I'd go home without her for something like that, so I stayed two nights and was discharged the second morning. It's a silly hospital rule IMHO because the nurse that comes to the home would be able to check the baby. I guess I could have fought it, but didn't think it was worth it so I just sent DH home to stay with DS. Baby girl and I spent a lot of time alone in the hospital - on a positive note I was really able to establish a great BF relationship without the distraction of DS.
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    Thanks, ladies. I think I will play it by ear.
    DH is going to be home for a while after baby is born and he is very helpful. But, the boys generally prefer me (DS1 has been especially clingy recently) and that might make it tough. My ILs will be staying with the boys until I come home. They live nearby and the boys see them a lot and adore them, so I'm not too worried about them being upset by a disrupted routine.
    big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
    middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
    little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
    baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
    8.16.12 & 12.16.12


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    I just wanted to add that I think it's a good idea that you know about this ahead of time so you can think a bit about your options. It would really suck to find out right after birth that early discharge was an option, and do it without considering everything & maybe have a bad experience, or not do it because you weren't sure if you'd have good support when you could make arrangements if you knew.
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