Feeling kind of down....

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Feeling kind of down....

This sounds totally lame and i'm sure it's just because of the pregnancy hormones but i'm seriously feeling so down about the pregnancy lately. I'm excited to be pregnant and finally having a home birth but I have NO ONE to share my excitement with around me. I have on IRL friend that lives just down the street that just had a home birth in April but I can't ONLY talk to her about. I would drive her nuts! Other than that no one else understands. I'm really wishing I had more natural birth minded friends close by that I could talk to. Sometimes I seriously hate living in Utah where if your not induced at 39 weeks with an OB something is wrong with you. I have hardly told anyone about this pregnancy aside from family and facebook friends, which most of those don't care or don't want to talk home birth with me. I just wish I had more IRL friends that were close enough for me to talk to about this.

Don't get me wrong, you guys have been amazing support and some awesome friends! Sometimes a woman just needs to talk to another woman face to face about things. Though I wouldn't trade any of the friendships I have made on this board for the world! You guys truly are amazing women! With out most of you I wouldn't be planning this home birth today! Thank you so much for your support and encouragement! I would give you all a great big huge hug right now if I could!

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Join this group. They have a weekly playgroup and most of them home birth. Smile

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/utahvalleyap/?v=1&t=directory&ch=web&pub=groups&sec=dir&slk=245

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I don't use my yahoo account anymore. Sad I got hacked a lot and closed it down with the last straw being a virus sent by the stupid hacker.

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I didn't realize you were in Utah! There are lots of us here who homebirth - bummer that you have had so many problems with yahoo & the groups. Being able to have a girlfriend to talk to especailly about things like birth & motherhood is a big deal, so I can completley understand why you feeling a bit down over the fact that you don't know more like minded women. Might be worth giving yahoo another go to see if you can connect with other women in your area Smile

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i know how you feel! I have a couple of IRL friends that I can talk to about the birth, but most I have to really be careful what I say - and especially after my last birth pple keep asking me, "are you really going to try to have another homebirth??" it's so frustrating!
I hope you find some local support!

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Maybe I will open it back up just to try it out. I'm from Salem just south of Spanish Fork. So up in Utah county but out of the way of everything.

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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way! I know what you mean though. I don't really have any close girlfriends that I talk to... and DH I'm sure doesn't want to hear any pregnancy talk. That's why I'm so glad I found this site. I know it's not the same as face to face contact, but it's great. What about any of the women in your ward? Is there anyone there you can talk to?

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"kridda_88" wrote:

Maybe I will open it back up just to try it out. I'm from Salem just south of Spanish Fork. So up in Utah county but out of the way of everything.

The play group locations tend to be in Provo and Orem, but that's probably only 20-30 min. from you. I think you'd like talking with these moms. Smile

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I have one member in my ward that I talk to frequently, she has a daughter that is just a couple months younger than DS1 and they

I guess more than anything I miss having a goo close girlfriend to talk to about anything and everything that would just come over when ever I needed her. BUT everyone has family's and can't do that. I do understand that. I just miss the closeness of having a girlfriend. Sad Just a pitty party for me, and I'm so getting over it because it's not good on my family or boys.

But I think I may still check out that play group! Though I don't know how well I will fit in as about the only thing I fit is natural birth stuff.

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I'm pregnant with my 6th. And no one really gives a crap except for my IRL BFF and most of my internet friends.

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It is totally hard feeling alone like that. Our HBMW hooked us up with some other families that were homebirthing around the same time, and with her, as well. She would make our appointments next to each other so we meet. We are still friends with the ones that lives close to us. Maybe ask your HBMW if she can introduce you to some of her other clients that she thinks you might click with. Might be a good way to meet other like minded moms that are also getting ready to give birth.

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"jolly11sd" wrote:

It is totally hard feeling alone like that. Our HBMW hooked us up with some other families that were homebirthing around the same time, and with her, as well. She would make our appointments next to each other so we meet. We are still friends with the ones that lives close to us. Maybe ask your HBMW if she can introduce you to some of her other clients that she thinks you might click with. Might be a good way to meet other like minded moms that are also getting ready to give birth.

You know what, I hadn't even thought of this but my midwife does this too & I love it. I've been able to meet other moms/families as well by going to her get togethers & by having a few appointments with other families. I didn't even think about this - would deff be worth suggesting to your midwife if she doesn't already do this Smile

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I definitely know how hard it can be not having anyone to talk to about how you're feeling as a pregnant woman and what you're going through. My BFF has sorta fallen off of the face of th earth since she got married. I don't know if it's because her DH doesn't like me or what, but it really hurts. Also, my girlfriends from HS don't have kids and aren't married, so their lives are so much different than mine is... so I guess we have nothing in common much anymore. So the only person really in my life is DH and my mom. Of course I love DH to death, but he really doesn't want to talk baby, and there's only so much I can take of my mom (I'm sure most of you know what I mean lol)!