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    Default first homebirth after many negative hospital births

    I lock up at about 3-4cm everytime, pretty sure its due to the fear-pain cycle.
    After 7 hospital births, I've finally convinced DH to let me birth at home w/a midwife.
    Now that I got his go-ahead, Im starting to stress. I dont do well with pain at all!
    I want hypnobabies but thats so far out of my financial reach its not funny.
    Is there a similar product that might help and is super cheap? Any online resources you know of? Herbal teas for pain relief and anxiety? I used Skullcap last time but couldnt keep it down =/

    I'll have a tub/pool to use-might that be enough?
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    I don't know how much hynobabies costs, but when I was prego, my friend emailed me the audio stuff and offered to give me her book (she lives a few hours away, so I decided I didn't need it.) Maybe you have a friend looking to get rid of her copy? or have you checked the local library?

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    I've never used hypnobabies, so I'm no help with that.

    What about doing a natural birth focused class? Read up all you can and practice various relaxation techniques, see what seems to resonate most with you. I would also read as many positive birth stories that you can find and avoid the negative one all together.

    Have you met with your mw yet? Be sure to talk to her about your fears or anxiety. Hopefully, she will be able to help you work through some of those fears and be the support you need in labor.

    What have you done for pain in the hospital? Have all your births been vag?

    Hopefully the change of settings will help you relax! Good luck!

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    Moving around, laboring in the shower, and read Birthing From Within. And if all else fails, scream your a$s off. That is what I did..LOL

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    Congratulations on your choice to try a homebirth this time! It does sounds like tension was stopping your dilation before. With my natural hosptial birth, I stayed home until I was 8 cm, but I handled it much better at home than I did after we were at the hospital. I used Hypnobabies and am I big fan of the program. I'm actually working on getting certified as an instructor. I would send you my set but i lent it to my friend and then she lost her baby at 24 weeks and I'd rather let her return it herself than try to ask her for it. Have you tried searching the internet to find it used? There are some on ebay: http://shop.ebay.com/i.html?_nkw=hyp....c0.m270.l1313
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    The thing that helped me (and I am the BIGGEST wuss when it comes to pain) is reading tons and tons and tons of positive birth stories (Ina May Gaskin's books) and watching positive videos. Your local library could have these to check out for free! Or ebay for super duper cheap.

    I literally kept positive information in front of me for 4-5 months before delivering. I only had 2 people in real life give me positive feedback when talking about childbirth. Most were super negative and once I started realizing that the VAST majority of those were induced labors with epidurals, I realized something was not quite right!

    I seriously am a wimp when it comes to pain, but I kept putting in front of me that it was a temporary pain that had an awesome purpose. If I could just get through the one contraction, I could get through the next! And when I had back labor (tough) I didn't feel quite as prepared (but I am this time!) but I made it through and now looking back, the labor flew by! It didn't last forever!

    Water was my best friend. I still can remember the amazing pain relief I got from sitting down in that tub! I cannot believe I wanted so long to get in the tub!

    Keep positive stories in front of you and read tons of positive natural childbirth books (library = free!) and come here for lots of reassurance. I've found that any fear I have, I must confront it or else it will stay on my mind during labor. So any fear that comes up now, I research that fear and ask questions here or elsewhere to ease my mind.

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    There is hypnobirthing. I got my book for around $8 off of amazon. It's a very very watered down version of Hypnobabies and I can honestly say that while I stayed relaxed I never had pain during contractions, not transition, and not even the ring of fire, and it was thanks to an excellent relaxation coach, DH, and hypnobirthing relaxation. I have 3 cds, one of which came with my book, 2 extra, that I could probably send you the tracks of if you are interested.
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    I've been lurking on this board and just wanted to jump in to say that my friend called HypnoBabies and found out that you can get a used copy at a very discounted price, you just have to return it when you're done. She went ahead and did that and was very happy with the program. I wish I could remember how much it cost exactly. Maybe it's worth a try to give them a call?
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    Thanks ladies for taking the time and for the advice

    Is hypnobabies comparable?

    The library is a good idea. Maybe I'll get lucky and they'll have something or could get it thru lending library program =) Think any relaxation cd would work? Or need it be birth-specific?

    I have a kiddie pool that I think will work size-wise. Its pretty deep and squishy.
    I keep telling myself that it'll be the biggest

    Keeping up a constant stream of positives is a great idea. I've just got to keep that negative, scared nagging voice to quiet down. lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by heatherliz2002 View Post
    I've been lurking on this board and just wanted to jump in to say that my friend called HypnoBabies and found out that you can get a used copy at a very discounted price, you just have to return it when you're done. She went ahead and did that and was very happy with the program. I wish I could remember how much it cost exactly. Maybe it's worth a try to give them a call?
    Last I heard they weren't buying or selling used courses any more, but it might be worth it to call and see. The number is at the top of the website: www.hypnobabies.com

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    Is hypnobabies comparable?
    Hypnobabies (www.hypnobabies.com) and HypnoBirthing (www.hypnobirthing.com) are both available as live classes. Hypnobabies also has a full homestudy course that is based on their live class, while the HypnoBirthing book is designed more to be a supplement to their live course and not really structured as a homestudy course. It is possible, as Krista did, to use the book and some CDs from HypnoBirthing as a do-it-yourself hypnosis for childbirth class, but you kind of have to create it yourself, while the Hypnobabies homestudy is very structured and lays everything out for you. For differences in the content and philosophies of the two programs, see http://www.birthnaturally.org/hypnobirthing.htm

    The library is a good idea. Maybe I'll get lucky and they'll have something or could get it thru lending library program =) Think any relaxation cd would work? Or need it be birth-specific?
    I have found a lot of good stuff through libraries. The HypnoBirthing book by Marie Mongan is in some libraries. You may also find some Prenatal Yoga books or DVDs, which can be a good way to practice relaxation. There are benefits to birth-specific stuff, especially in how they tend to focus a lot on thinking positively about birth. Hypnobabies also includes imagining the sensations of birth and thinking about them in a different light. I think whatever you do to practice relaxation, I'd recommend setting up a regular schedule for practice so that you become good enough at it that it becomes automatic and you can relax on command, otherwise it may go out the window when labor starts (this happened to me in my first birth).
    -Brittany
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