For DS's birth DH was really hesitant. He was scared and of the opinion that I should really listen to what the doctors said.
Well, we had our first appt with our OB. He is not the one who delivered DS, he is the one who did my surgery to fix the damage my previous OB did. We started in his office and spent half an hour going over DS's birth, my wishes for this birth and my OBs feeling on my wishes. I was so proud of DH, not only was he engaged for the first time, but he had a list of things from DS's birth that he referred to as "cruel and unusual" and was upfront with the doctor of not finding those acceptable this time around. I hadn't even spoken with him about any of this before the appt because I know he got tired of hearing about it last time and I figured he didn't care. Its so nice to feel like I'm going into this with a partner who is on the same page.
Some of the things that were discussed:
*Induction will not be brought up until 40 weeks and it will only be brought up then because the hospital requires it to be scheduled 2 weeks in advance
*Walking during labor is not only allowed but encouraged (I know that sounds like a no brainer but last time I was threatened with a c-section if I didn't either lie in bed or sit in the rocking chair)
*Any discussion of medical intervention will be offered with a full explanation (we went over things in DS's birth and he explained both sides of the argument and what he would have suggested).
*C-section is only an option in a life threatening emergency, not because things are taking too long.
*Natural labor is his preference but if I do decide I need pain meds he recommends an epi though it will only be available by request.
*Unless a problem is detected intermittent fetal monitoring is preferred.
*If I didn't live so darn far from a hospital he would support a homebirth.
Sorry this is so long. I wasn't even expecting to get into most of this stuff so early on and we were able to go into alot of detail. I am excited to feel like I am going into this with a strong partner and a compatible doctor. Now I just need to find a doula!