I told someone (an acquaintance) last night after being asked by her what my due was that I was due at the end of August, maybe into September.
Her- "oh, you haven't been to the dr yet to get your due date?"
Me- "no, I've seen the dr already."
Her- "So, what's your due date?"
Me- "why, the baby can't tell time and won't expire?"
Her- "I've heard of people keeping the gender a secret but no one keeps the due date a secret."
Me- "it's not a secret, it's the end of August."
Her- "yes, but what day?"
Me- "why does it matter what day the dr thinks, the baby doesn't care and will come when he or she is ready?"
Her- "well, that way you'll know when you have to have the baby by"
Me- "I'll have the baby whenever he or she is ready to be born, why do I need a date to fret over?"
Her- "did he give you a date?"
Her- "you're not going to tell me when it is, are you?"
Me- (smile) "no, I'm not because it isn't important to me, my baby or you"
Her- "you are one of the most difficult people I know"
Me- "I know. Thank you! By the way, we won't be finding out the gender either so don't ask "
She was flabbergasted by the end of the conversation but still smiling so I'm taking that as a good sign. There were several people around (other volleyball moms) that all know already just how passionate and stubborn I am when it comes to birth-y stuff and they were about to fall over on the ground laughing during the conversation. It was fun, I so love messing with people.
that's funny. people really do like to get hung up on a date! my MIL is flying in a few days before my due date and staying for 12 days...which means she will be here for one week past my due date. obviously, i would love for this baby to be born toward the beginning of her visit to maximize her helpfulness with DS1 (he adores her and she is really good with him...i don't have to give any instructions, she just knows what to do, and it would be so comforting to leave him with her when we have to go to the hospital to give birth). BUT i was warning her just this week, that if i go 41 weeks or more, she might have to leave and i could still be pregnant, unless she decides to change her flight and extend her trip (which i don't expect her to do since that would be expensive). anyway, she was SHOCKED. she was like "but they won't let you go past your due date, will they??? won't they induce you on your due date or the next day???" uh....no. and i wouldn't want them to.
DS Asher born 11/29/09
DD Clara born 3/9/12
That is funny that she couldn't let it drop and needed a date. I totally get odd looks when people ask my EDD and I say April. They always say "when in April?" and I just say "probably mid-April" and leave it at that. You can totally see them trying to figure it out in their heads.
~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)
I've done the same- answered the question with "early June" and I can see people squirm! It's hilarious! But seriously... my DD's "date" was April 28, and she came on the 24th.... with this baby my official date has been set at June 6, but, I'm hoping to go to the week of my birthday- June 12 or so... and there are plenty of people betting I won't make it past the end of May (I really hope I do- I want a June baby!). But of course... it's pretty much out of my hands! This baby will be born when it's born! Seriously though, it's funny how we can get so hung up on dates... like they really mean something!
Mara & Joel, 2009
My 3rd was due on Halloween, who I nicknamed Boo before she was born, and she jumped ship on Oct 1st. Her nickname doesn't hold quite the same meaning anymore LOL. I told people I was due between Halloween and Thanksgiving. I've never had anyone push quite as hard as the lady last night did. I was having way too much fun last night with that conversation. She wasn't mean by any means and neither was I, it was just really really amusing to me that she was so worried about the actual date. I was by the end of it!
Wait...babies don't have an expiration date?
I liked telling people DD's due date, but only because it was the same as mine, which I thought was pretty cool. I also always shared the fact that my actual birthday is two weeks later, though, and said I just hoped she didn't want to share that too!
Most people were satisfied with a time frame of end of January maybe beginning of February when they asked me. If they pushed I would tell them, "the GUESS date is the 30th" but he will come when he is ready. More people get hung up on when he was born and tell me he was born early when I tell them the date so they don't keep saying he is a preemie, 38w2d. I just tell them that he was ready to come and that it was a good thing he came when he did because his placenta was calcifying. That shuts them up pretty quick about him being so small.
Anyway, sorry to go off on that tangent it's been bothering me lately. I agree I think it's funny and slightly annoying that people get so obsessed over the "due date". Like it's this magic date that baby is supposed to come by.
With Tiven, I regretted sharing my EDD when June 17th came & went. So with Weston I said, the end of July without committing to a date. And then July came & went. If I could have a do-over (since I'm not having any more kids) I'd probably not say anything until baby was born.
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With DS I had shared my due date of July 1st and kept saying he would probably be late, so beginning of July, then he arrived June 21st! So with DD I just said December because her due date was the 17th of December. She almost made me wrong again because she was born Dec 5th! LOL! Next time it's "I don't care, they never arrive when they are due!"
Ethan - June 21, 2009
Olivia - December 5, 2010
5w3d - October/November 2012
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