Good News #1: I finally got a chance to really talk to DH about homebirth last night (I know, what took so long?), and he is on board. He wanted to make sure of a few things, 1) he really doesn't want the midwives here with a messy house, so he wants to have a clean house at the time of the birth. I think I can handle that (I have a history of nesting in early labor, anyway) 2) he says I need to find ways to handle stress better because I have been stressed lately (I have thought it was more moodiness than stress, but I think he is right that stress is part of it) and he is worried about what stress could do to the baby, and 3) he wants to be certain that if the baby's needs change, either from something we learn clinically from the midwives or if my intuition/divine guidance tells me something (right now I have this amazing feeling of peace about this pregnancy), he wants to be sure that I won't let my desire for a homebirth get in the way of what is best for the baby, and I told him that I am really okay with birthing in a hospital again if that is what is best.
I told him that I'm not really worried about anything going wrong with homebirth. I feel good about it. My worries are about doing something so outside the social norm and how other people might react--I'm afraid of having my choices judged and criticized. My husband is someone who has never been one to care about what other people think, and he thinks I shouldn't care either. He said "Either everything you have studied and are so passionate about is right or it is wrong. If it's wrong, then lets go to the hospital. So, are you right or wrong?" I said "I think I'm right." And he said "I think you're right, too. And if you're right, it doesn't matter what other people think." I love my husband.
Good News #2: I just found out that the midwives just started taking appointments at a second office in my area! They are sharing the office with a local Naturopath/Acupuncturist. This means that I would only have to drive 12 minutes for office visits instead of an hour!
Woohoo! That's exciting Brittany! I'm so happy for you! Your midwife situation sounds exactly like what my midwife just did. They were an hour away but they opened up another clinic/birth room about 15 minutes away from me. I think that's what finished telling me it was meant to be. I hope you can settle your fear/stress of worrying about what other people think. I've decided that if they don't need to know they don't need to know. It's easier and less stressful for me.
DS1-7/18/08, DS2-2/23/10, DS3 1/18/12
that's great news all around! Your DH reminds me of mine in the logic sense and helping me think things through
Tiff + Bobby 8/22/04
Sounds like you have a wonderfully loving and supporting husband! He gets a GOLD star!
I'm so glad everything seems to be falling into place for you!
I am extremley excited for you Brittany!! I'm a bit of a clean freak & had my house cleaned for WEEKS prior ot the birth & of course the night I go into labor my daughter is throwing up & my kitchen is a mess BUT no one cared - not a soul & the birth was peaceful, quiet & beautiful. Sounds like you and your husband had a wonderful talk - yay!
Mama to 7 curious, wild & wonderful little ones ♥
That is wonderful news! Hey one of your blog posts ended up on the Hypnobabies yahoo group the other day. I have to say it was an amazing post and really really hit home to me. You do such a wonderful job on your blog. I wish I had your talent.
Christy birth doula, Hypnobabies instructor, small business owner & most importantly MOMMY.
What a great and supportive hubby! Hooray for good news.
Kristin + Richard May 2007
Mommy to Sarah Caroline
Thanks for your support, ladies. I feel like everything is falling into place now.
That is cool, which post was it?Hey one of your blog posts ended up on the Hypnobabies yahoo group the other day. I have to say it was an amazing post and really really hit home to me. You do such a wonderful job on your blog. I wish I had your talent.