Who also happens to be in the process of getting her CPM. She mainly does birth center and home births.
I have really been hung up on the monitoring thing. Truth be told, I don't want to be on the monitors at all past an initial strip. I would be ok with monitoring intermittently with a doppler (like most midwives would do at home for example). I know that the hospital requires continuous EFM because I am a VBAC (and especially since I am after 2c/s). The evidence shows that continuous monitoring does not improve outcomes but does raise the chance of c/s. I also know that the chance of rupture is very small, and though it does increase with a 2nd c/s, the increase is so minimal there really is no statistical value. Plus, if the idea is to labor at home as long as possible (as I have been encouraged to do by my OB), then I won't be on any monitors during that time either so why does it magically change when I go to the hospital?
So back to my talk with my OB's wife... She tells me that it is his standard practice to do delayed cord clamping and immediate skin to skin with the baby. I asked, "So they remind you as you are pushing to remove your top so that baby can immediately be placed skin to skin?!" And she said yes. That is awesome to me, and so beyond what I have experienced with other OBs. Also, he is really big on letting dads catch if they want to Then I went on to ask about the monitoring. She in a nutshell tells me that the hospital requires him to highly encourage us to do the monitoring, but that he secretly hopes we don't agree to continuous (in the absence of any red flags and/or problems of course). She also said that if I decline, but agree to the doppler, that the nurses will honor my wishes, and not continue to bug me about it. You have no idea how happy and relieved this makes me!! She also went on to tell me that they often talk about what they would do if she were in the same situation (vbac after multiple c/s), and she said that honestly she would probably still choose to home birth, though the credentials and training of the MW attending her would be really important to her. All I really want is to be left alone to labor and birth my baby.
As for other news, I am 30 weeks already!! I cannot believe that the time is almost here. Some days I am really excited and at ease about the birth, and honestly some days I am just plain scared. I KNOW I can labor until complete without meds. I just pray every day that baby is in a better position than my last 2 and that there are no complications (including no meconium, etc). I just really hope this one will go smoothly. I've started back up with my hypnobabies course, and DH and I are doing several Birthing From Within sessions together in a couple of weeks. I look forward to them and I hope they will help me to work through some of the really strong emotions left over from DD and DS' births.
Totally just typed a book, so thanks for reading if you made it this far!!