I had my meeting tonight with the m/w and I'm sad to say that I just didn't love her. I liked her allright, but I was really wanting to go in there and be completely comfortable with her and know that was what I wanted. I didn't feel that.
She said 1 thing that really bothered me too. I asked about how long she would let me gestate and she said 40 weeks was the limit. She couldn't give me any exact reason but said there were studies that said VBAC's get dangerous past 40 weeks, but she wasn't sure if it increased UR rates or what. I've done a lot of research and have NEVER come across anything that suggests it's dangerous past 40 weeks. That bothers me, because with both of my kids I have been induced so I have no idea how long I normally gestate. So, then what do I do when I get past 40 weeks. I will have a dr that can do u/s and bloodwork, but not a true back-up dr for the homebirth. So, at 40 weeks I'll be what......out on my own?!
Plus another thing that bothers me is that she talked about if baby had a couple of decels that would warrant a transfer. Well, if I transfer, I would have to go to the closest hospital and as soon as I walk in that door I know it will be hostile, especially if they find out it was an attempted homebirth. They will section me so freaking fast you wouldn't believe it. Or, my DH would be left to fight them off because the m/w can help us get there but cannot go in with us in any capacity.
Talk me through this girls. I was just so set that I would go there and love her and the decision would be made. Now, I'm back to square one! Also, IL has prosecuted so many m/w's that there just aren't any left here. I have contacted everyone I could think of and she is the only m/w that would even consider me!
I have an appt with my OB next Thursday and I'm going to talk to him about a VBA2C, but I truly don't think their office will do one. I also am making an appointment with another supposed VBAC friendly dr soon. If neither one of those will do a VBA2C I will have to go to St. Louis which is about 2 hours from here to talk to the next closest VBAC dr.
I'm exhausted already and I've only just begun