HB Midwife Interview *Update*

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HB Midwife Interview *Update*

We only have one midwife I am aware of in our area. I found her website is it rude to email asking for an interview? I hate to go into all the details via email. My previous midwives (in another town) were recommended. Everyone I knew at that time had natural deliveries and breastfed. Very different from where I live now Sad I really don't know anything about this midwife. I hate to call or email and pour my heart out.

She emailed me back today and being the inpatient person I am I called back immediately! She was very sweet I gave a run down on previous births and reasons for transfers (# 3 post partum hemorrhage, #4 early 35+6, more than 24 hr rupture, no contrax, decels with herbs). Also last baby was stillbirth. She was ok with switching to dual care at 30 weeks, my weird magic number in my head. She did have concerns that she'll be out of town May 6th - 14th and didn't plan on taking any clients in May. I'm ok with using her backup if need be. The backup isn't licensed but has been doing it longer than her (20+ yrs). Im due the 8th but my last 4 were before my due date, then again babies come when they want! I scheduled my "real" interview the first week of Dec. Nov is hectic on DH's days off and I just want to get past another month for nerves!

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I wouldn't think it's rude at all. A midwife has a business, just like anyone else- I don't think they generally care about what method you use to find them/contact them, they're just happy to get business:)

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I agree! I don't think that's out of line at all... As a doula I often have that scenario happen - woman stumbles across my site, wants to sit down and talk and see if I'm a fit before hiring me. Totally fair and expected. I don't see any problem.

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If her email address is in her contact info on her website, it is perfectly fine to email her and pour your heart out/request an interview. And, I would do it soon. She may have a client limit per month.

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Thanks ladies. I just emailed her. I kept it short and sweet. I do have concerns but would feel more comfortable talking about it in person. I'm still a bit reserved my last two homebirths were transferred (1 after delivery 1 before). I am a trained (once certified) doula and have done a midwifery internship myself. I just have a lot of mixed emotions this time. This is a new midwife who became certified this year. I just hate that I don't know anyone who used her. She seems to be the only doula out here as well. If I went the hospital route I would definitely hire a doula. Ah Im rambling now Smile

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Not rude in the least. Do it!

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I was going to say, if you do email, keep it short & sweet. Blum 3 Think of it as leaving an introductory voicemail, but in writing. You wouldn't introduce yourself by voicemail with something like, "blahblahblah, and then I was bleeding all over & the baby was vomiting & we had to call an ambulance..." No, you'd say, "I'm Stacey, my number is XXX, and I'm interested in your homebirth services." The nitty-gritty things can come out when you get to know one another a bit more.

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She is your only option? Definately meet with her. On my midwives' webpage, they even put a dislaimer that they do a 1-hr free consultation for new patients. I was pretty sure I would go with my midwives, but still used that hour to talk with one of them and learn all I could, etc. I really hope you like this MW!!!

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I know there's another midwife a few hours away but I don't feel comfortable with that. The midwife/ob practice I currently see (and will cont I've always done dual care) delivers about an hour away. I just can't imagine driving that far in labor! That's actually one of my reasons I want to deliver at home. My last 3 deliveries have all been 1 1/2 - 3 hours total. Originally I said I would wait until 6-7 months to switch to dual care. I'm just getting so antsy!

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You are right to get things settled sooner rather than later. Midwives sometimes have a limit and get booked quickly.

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"gardenbug" wrote:

You are right to get things settled sooner rather than later. Midwives sometimes have a limit and get booked quickly.

Yes, my midwives book up within first trimester so sooner rather than later is very good!

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That's great you heard back and it's all good for a live interview soon. Like pp said, I didn't realize how quickly midwives book up. Smile

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I'm glad the call went well!