I'm really having a hard time figuring out if this baby should be born at home or in the hospital. When I first brought it up to DH, he kind of said he thought we should just go back to the hospital. I had a good experience last time at the hospital we went to (owned by the company DH works for--he works at a larger hospital that doesn't do L&D) and I think I could get exactly what I want if I am clear about it. My OB, Dr. I is a fabulous doctor, really much more like a CNM in her practice style. The things I was not super happy about from last time were, her forgetting to tell me I was GBS positive (so although I stayed home longer in labor, I was at the hospital longer after he was born...and I had the IV thing kind of sprung on me), how she wanted to check me because I was vocalizing in a way that indicated I was feeling pressure, and then found a cervical lip, which messed up everything, how I ended up pushing semi-seated on the bed after getting checked, because the thought of moving seemed beyond overwhelming, how pushing in that position was ineffective and the nurse ended up instructing me to hold my breath, how they took DS to the warmer to help him get breathing good, how she delivered my placenta with cord traction (and I think the result of the last two was that I needed drugs for hemorrhage), but I think if I explained some of these things to Dr. I, she will be willing to work with me on a lot of it...though if the baby needs help, it will still have to be taken to the warmer. I'm also not a fan of the office where Dr. I works--their administrative people are crappy. It would be nice talk to Dr. I again, though, and tell her about how I am getting certified to teach Hypnobabies and everything (she really encouraged me to get certified after seeing me give birth with it)
I have one friend who gave birth at home with a midwife team--their offices are kind of far away (about an hour as opposed to about half an hour to Dr. I's office), and I'd probably have to go down there for most of my prenatal visits, but I would give birth at home. I would love to have midwifery prenatal care. I talked to DH about it again last night and he seems open to the idea of home birth, though he has a lot of questions that he would need the midwives to answer--about cost and more importantly, about what equipment they carry--he wants to be sure they have everything necessary for if the baby were to need help after the birth, since both of our first two have had help in the hospital, and he has always been the one to watch this because he could go over to the warmer I couldn't. He was also asking me about what room I would give birth in (I guess he thinks that needs to be planned in advance?) and about paperwork details like getting a birth certificate. I think he would feel a lot better about homebirth if we talked to a midwife about it together. I don't like that if there was an emergency we would have to go to the hospital I'm not a fan of, because it is closer, though for a non-emergent transfer, I'm sure we could still got to my hospital. I'm also just worried about the "what if"s because, being a birth nerd, I know about all of them in detail. And I'm worried about the social issues with homebirth and what people at DH's work might think with him being a hospital administrator and all. I'm really not sure what I want.
If you manged to make it all the way to the end of this...what does it sound like I want to you?