Hopefully my last MW meet & greet (xp)

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Hopefully my last MW meet & greet (xp)

Some of you may have noticed that I am switching midwives again. I was in WV with DH's family and they have way more drama in their family right now than I want anything to do with, so long story short, I am now in NC close to my family. We got a furnished apartment of our own and DD and I are planning to stay here until DH comes home from Afghanistan next summer.

On to our meet and greet:

Here is her website if anyone is interested: http://www.carrboromidwifery.com

She was fantastic!! She is a CNM who home-births and I just think that is amazing! I have found so many CNMs totally bound by their practices and don't want anything to do with home-births, let alone VBACs. In the state of NC in order to home-birth she has to have OB back-up, and she does, so that is another added plus. She is fine with me delivering at home anywhere from 36-43 weeks gestation. She wants me to call as soon as I think I am in labor though so that she can be with me for the entire time since I am a VBAC. She carries all her own meds and equipment and does her own tear repair and everything. She will come with an assistant, and she has a birth tub for me to use free of charge. I just have to buy the liner. If my membranes rupture she will let me go as long as needed unless I develop fever or there is meconium or any other risk factors. She said she is not particularly on the conservative side as far as transfers since she can normally tell from the get-go if we will make it at home or not. Obviously as long as she believes I can do it safely at home she will encourage me to stay. The only thing she is not comfortable with is if the baby is breech, but we will cross that bridge if we ever have to. She said she does know other midwives who are very comfortable with delivering breeches, so there would be options.

And are you ready for this **drumroll** she is only charging me $500 to reserve my spot and then she will bill my insurance for the rest!! Most likely I can even get the $500 back from my insurance if I file for it.

DH is comfortable and I am comfortable, so hopefully this is it!! We didn't do any appointment stuff today, but I am going to her office next Tuesday for all of that. She said we will do one or two more appointments at her office and then the rest at home which is fine with me. Well, thanks for reading!!

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She sounds wonderful! Congrats on finding such a good fit!

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Wow, a CNM who homebirths- that is awesome! Does she have hospital privileges anywhere?
And WOOHOO FOR INSURANCE! Oh, what I wouldn't give to have my insurance cover my homebirth!

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SHe sounds wonderful - I hope she is your last care provider!

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She sounds like she has it all. What a find That is awesome about insurance as well.

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Yay! That's so awesome! (about the new midwife and how great it's going) not the needing to leave DH's family. I hear ya on the CNM, the midwife team we're going with, one is a CNM and she's the only one in the county she's based out of, and even my county that does homebirths. That's also great about the insurance portion.

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That is so fantastic! And I agree, what I wouldn't give for my insurance to cover homebirth!

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She sounds wonderful!

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I'm sorry your original plan didn't work out, but I'm so happy that you have found a great midwife and environment where you are comfortable.

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"jooniper" wrote:

Wow, a CNM who homebirths- that is awesome! Does she have hospital privileges anywhere?
And WOOHOO FOR INSURANCE! Oh, what I wouldn't give to have my insurance cover my homebirth!

She does have hospital privileges where her office is located, which is about an hour and a half from me. That would be too far for an emergency transfer, but if it was something we could see coming, then I would probably go there just for the continuity of care. As for an e-transfer, she said she has never had any problems with hospitals respecting her credentials and that she would stay with me until after we established BFing.

I know... I NEVER expected my insurance to cover it. We already dropped $500 to reserve our spot with the WV midwife. She said she would refund $250 given the circumstances, but I felt so bad for cancelling with her so late that I never followed up or sent her an address to send the refund check. So hopefully this is the last $500 we will have to spend out of pocket. The only other thing is a pre-made birth kit that she has organized with a special company which is $50 and the tub liner which is like $35. I don't even need to rent a tub since she said I could use hers for free. Ohhhhhh it is all such a relief, especially since we are REALLY tight financially right now with all the moving and stuff.

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That sounds great!

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I'm glad you were able to find such a great midwife! It has been along road, but hopefully you're where you're supposed to be and with the provider you're supposed to be with now!

Reading about you ladies who see homebirth midwives makes me a little jealous...not that I want to be pregnant right now or anything, but the care seems so awesome...hoepfully it will be me in a little over a year or so.

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Brittany, we were talking about that on my BB. Here is just a little example (xp):

She even assured me that they have plenty of toys AND snacks and that her (older) daughter would be there to help with DD if I needed her when I go to her office for the next visit or so. I was just talking about this with DH last week b/c I was facing a situation where if I had a CPM (who is illegal to attend home-births in NC), then I would have had to carry dual coverage with an OB and an office. So the one I was looking at actually had a note on their website that said "Due to limited office space, we request that you avoid bringing children and friends or family to your appointments"... I was like WTF!?! This is an amazing time in my life that I want all of the people close to me to be a part of, and you want me to avoid bringing them to any/all appointments?! I mean isn't pregnancy, prenatal care, and having babies a family-oriented business... come on!!

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Ariel- It sounds like everything is going so good. Sorry to hear you weren't able to stay in WV. How is DD doing with all the moving? Are you having any family members at the birth?

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"momW" wrote:

Ariel- It sounds like everything is going so good. Sorry to hear you weren't able to stay in WV. How is DD doing with all the moving? Are you having any family members at the birth?

Silly has been WAY better than I ever expected with all of this. I truly think I have used up all of my "easy, laid back baby points" lol. Even on the long car and plane rides she has been wonderful... I worry about her too much and she always amazes me. I'm not sure about family being here. I would love for my mom and sis to come, but my mom has been making "jokes" that she is so busy that if I can schedule to have the baby between 7 pm on a Friday and 7 am on a Monday, then she can be there. And that is EXACTLY why I am not going to a hospital b/c this babe is on nobody's schedule but his own. I dunno what will happen. I can't imagine not being there if my daughter was in labor, but my hubby and I are a little different than the rest of our families. I am planning to have a doula, and I am hoping to go to the next local home-birth meetup that is about 45 mins from here. It would be cool if I could meet some IRL like-minded ladies and get some support there.

Thanks for asking!!

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From everything you've said, I'm not sure how supportive your mom would be. Has she kind of changed her tune any about you having a homebirth or is she still giving you "information" about the dangers?

Glad to hear everything is working out. I wish you were closer to me, I would love to be there for you and DD right now.

How is DH doing? Is he overseas yet or still in the process of leaving the country? I bet he is so sad to leave you, but probably so proud of you for all that you are doing for the new baby!

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Good luck! I hope she is all you are looking for. Smile

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"momW" wrote:

From everything you've said, I'm not sure how supportive your mom would be. Has she kind of changed her tune any about you having a homebirth or is she still giving you "information" about the dangers?

Glad to hear everything is working out. I wish you were closer to me, I would love to be there for you and DD right now.

How is DH doing? Is he overseas yet or still in the process of leaving the country? I bet he is so sad to leave you, but probably so proud of you for all that you are doing for the new baby!

Well, she has pretty much changed her tune. I know it would not be her first choice for us, but she isn't still trying to give me all the latest information lol. I pretty much put an end to that when I told her the decision was already made about the home-birth and she wasn't going to change my mind. I wish you were closer too!! It would be great to have IRL support... right now I have very little... DH is about it. I'm hoping I can meet some like-minded ladies at that home-birth meetup in July. DH will be overseas VERY soon. Sooner than we thought actually. I know he would give anything to be here to support us, but it is what it is I guess.