I have a friend that I actually met just before she became pregnant 9 months ago. She found out that I was going to go for a VBA2C and was interested. We became friends and I shared with her my research and information. She started going to my dr and was all set for her VBA2C. She went in to the hospital yesterday morning in labor. The dr broke her water around 1 o'clock. Sometime in the afternoon she got an epidural and pitocin to augment her labor that was not progressing. Sometime early this morning she had the baby vaginally. The baby had SUA (Single Umbilical Artery) and was having breathing problems at birth so she was taken to a bigger hospital for observation. My friend was rushed into surgery because she had ruptured. I talked to her sister this morning but she was cutting out. She said they had to repair her bladder and uterus and I think she said she lost an ovary. She has not seen her baby girl yet and is still pretty out of it and recovering in ICU.
I'm so heartbroken for her right now. I have been so sick at my stomach all morning. I can't get this guilty feeling to go away. I adamantly refused pitocin augmentation during my labor and I wish I had taken the time to thoroughly make her understand why it was so important to me to avoid it. I'm so mad at my dr too. Why do they feel the need to augment labors?! If a VBAC labor stalls out, it could be for good reason. I've read in plenty of birth stories to know that it happens often. When a woman ruptures a lot of the time the labor will stall because the body knows something is wrong. Why couldn't he just leave well enough alone?! I'm sure he is really torn up right now (he is a very nice man), but I just wish OB's trusted and understood birth. Even the best ones, really don't have a clue.
This pretty much seals my decision that I will be using a mw and doing a homebirth for the next one.
I'm just kind of rambling right now. My thoughts are all over the place right now and my heart is breaking for her. I want to go up and see her, but I just feel so guilty right now. Logically, I know this is not my fault, but I still can't help but feeling like I just didn't do enough to help her understand the risks of augmentation.
I'm going to venture a guess that this will shut down VBAC's at this hospital or at least at that dr's office and they are the only ones that do them at all in our area. When it really should just make them realize how dangerous pitocin is to VBACing moms. One of the dr's in the practice induced my VBAC labor with DS with pitocin and cervidil. I didn't realize just how lucky I got with his birth until now.