I'm cheating. :oops: I just copied this from my blog, I posted it on Tuesday, but thought you all might be able to relate...
I stopped at the grocery store on my way home tonight. I noticed one family -- mom, dad, grandma, and a huge SUV-style stroller covered with two blankets -- making slow progress around the store. The mom was pushing the stroller slowly, and leaning on it almost like it was a walking aid. She was obviously having a rough evening.
As I left the parking garage, I got stuck in traffic and saw the same family exiting the front door of the store. The mom looked absolutely exhausted, almost in tears. The dad ran after a MUNI bus but it didn't stop for him. As he came back to the mom & grandma, the mom threw up her arms and walked away from the stroller. She clutched her belly and it occured to me that she was very newly post-partum; without the stroller & exhaustion, she might have appeared to be six months pregnant.
I made a snap decision & pulled into the handicapped parking space in front of them, rolled down my window, and said to the mom, "You look like you need a ride home." Without a word, she walked to my car & got in, leaving the dad aghast and the grandma confused. The grandma said to the dad, "I'm going with her," and got in the back seat. Dad was left to push the stroller home.
She'd had a c-section FOUR DAYS AGO. She not only just gave birth to a baby four days ago, she also had major abdominal surgery four days ago. What the hell kind of husband & grandma let a new mom who is recovering from a c-section go out on a walk to the grocery store the day after leaving the hospital? Even if she thinks she feels up to it, she's not really. I told her so. I've had two c-sections. She needs to be putting her energy into healing, not walking around a grocery store. I turned around & wagged my finger at the grandma, "You're a mother, you should know better than to let her out of the house after what she's just been through!" I told them both that mom is to go home, get in bed, and stay there until baby is two weeks old. Let the people who care about you, care for you. Take your pain meds by the clock, stay in bed, nurse that baby, and just heal up. I gave her my phone number & email address, she wrote them on her hand. I do hope she gets in touch. I probably need to apologize to her husband for traumtizing him by practically kidnapping his wife from the grocery store.