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    I haven't really posted my whole OT moving and finding a house saga that's been going on since April... but the short version is that our landlady told us she's not interested in renewing our lease which is up on July 3rd, so we started thinking about our options. DS1 and DD starting next year are going to school in a different town (town... haha! there are like 50 families... so maybe I'll use the word village...) anyway, there are only a handful of kids from our town who go there, they have to take 2 buses starting at 7am and getting to school at 8:30. We chose the school because we agree with the philosophy, but most families in our town would rather do the easy thing and stay local. So we started looking into the other villages in the area where kids from the school live... For almost 2 months we were pretty sure we had a place on one of them - the one closest to where we live now... until we were told abruptly and for no reason that we were not going to be able to rent there...

    So about a month ago we finally signed a lease on a cute little house in a lovely village one over from where the school is! So now that we have a "home" I have finally started thinking about my home birth!

    I met with a MW last week who lives 10 minutes from our new house, she has been a MW here since 1970! She seems really cool and she believes in women's bodies. And my friend and new neighbor just birthed with her last year and had a great experience.

    So why am I hesitating? Because everything is changing! And I'm nervous. I'm just nervous that I can't predict anything about how this birth is going to go, how this move is going to be, what my new community is going to be like.... I know a few people there, only 3 speak any English! In the past 5 years we moved from NY/NJ (massive!) to a "city" in the middle of nowhere with a population of 7500, and now we're moving to a tiny village with a total of 80 families! I'm excited, but I'm also nervous.

    And every birth of mine has been in a different place with different attendants! I thought that my MW team from my last birth would be it for my future births, but one MW stopped doing HB, and the other decided to sell her car and only take local births... soooo I don't know... I just want some continuity! I guess that's why I haven't called her back yet. But I know that I can't have that, so I need to just call her back and tell her that we want to hire her!

    I guess this was more of a vent than anything else, but I'd be happy for any support or ideas. Thanks!!
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    Hang in there Ayelet!!! With all that you have been through and all the changes I can really understand why you are so nervous! But it sounds like this new village will be a great experience and the "new" midwife will be perfect! You can do this (again!)
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    ugh double post!!!
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    Thanks Mel! I also spoke to my MW from my last birth, and she also helped me feel that it will be ok. I guess there are just some parallels to the circumstances surrounding Yitzchak's birth that are making me feel uncomfortable, which is odd b/c I really thought I'd processed that, but apparently there is still some trauma that I'm holding on to...
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    You had such a bad time with Yitzchak it makes sense that you are feeling some anxiety from it still. I hope you are able to process it all and feel better about this upcoming birth.
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    When I was about 30 weeks with Tiven, my DH decided to switch rooms around in our apartment, front room into living room, and the middle room into "bedroom." His reasoning made perfect sense -- the middle room is darker, quieter, and warmer -- and while I agreed with it, I was actually shaking with anxiety for a day or two after we did it. Change is not something we want to do in pregnancy. We want things to be settled, that's normal & natural, because we can't predict or control how birth will go so we want everything else predictable and under control. Give yourself room to process those emotions but don't let them limit your options. It really sounds like this is going to be a good move in every way.

    And this time is very different than with Yitzchak. That time, you had a bad midwife who didn't trust your body and didn't support you making good decisions, indeed pushed you to make very poor decisions. This time, you'll have a great midwife that you know has a lot of great experience and supports women in making good decisions. HUGE difference. Take comfort in that. Wishing you tons of peace in your decisions, and a smooth & easy move.
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    This is a new birth experience and it sounds like you will be in great care with this MW. Not only knowing that she has so many years of experience but also confirmation from 2 neighbors.
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    Yay for finding a midwife (and a new place to live!)
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    Wow...don't feel bad for needing to process everything--that's a lot of change at once! Glad you found a great midwife, though. That's a huge piece of the puzzle taken care of.
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    That is definitely a lot to process; lots of big change. But it sounds like you've found a wonderful option for a m/w. Definitely has the experience and you have personal recommendations too. I'm sorry you are finding yourself hesitant though and I hope you can find the peace with the while situation that you need before this baby makes his/her arrival.
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