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ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
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I'm baaaaaack

Hi ladies, I am so excited to be back as a preggo momma! ahhhh!!!! I can't believe it. Yahoo (Due time is around September 22nd) I see some familiar faces around these parts and many new people to get to know. For those of you I don't know me, my name is Erika. I am 37 and live in the Chicago area (but I used to live in Iowa for the other births) I had my first baby in May of 2005 - lovely home waterbirth. Then in 2007 I had my twins at home (water births also). Their stories are burried here somewhere in the files Smile I am an allround crunchy kinda mom. We breastfeed, sling wear, cloth dipe (geeze I haven't had a diaper in 3+ years though!), co-sleep-, non circ., whole foods, family cloth, non-vax, and pretty much all thing AP. I feel so blessed to be on this journey one more time. I also also really praying that it is a singleton. I would appreciate any additional prayers, thoughts, blessings (Whatever grounds you) that this pregnancy is what we can handle. We always seem to overcome, but the twin pregnancy and the first 2 years was VERY challenging for my marriage.

Other than all things birthy I am also a doula, a placenta encapsulist, a Breastfeeding Counselor with Breastfeeding USa (and former LLL leader) and hopefully a future midwife. I love to read, garden, knit, and cook. In addition to my three daughter I have two lovely kitties and a Collie named Bella who I compete in obedience with.

Oh, and for those of you who are friends with me on Facebook: this is TOP Secret Wink

xMyLovelyLadyBumpx's picture
Joined: 02/17/11
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Congrats on another LO (: how exciting!! You sound a lot like me in parenting and lifestyle Biggrin Look forward to stalking you!

Spacers's picture
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So glad you're back! Are you hoping for a boy this time, or to stick with what you know? Blum 3

AkMomma07's picture
Joined: 07/04/07
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So exciting to see you back! Congrats on your new pregnancy!

ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
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"Spacers" wrote:

So glad you're back! Are you hoping for a boy this time, or to stick with what you know? Blum 3

right now i am hoping for 1 not 2, and healthy. I don't really pine for a boy, i feel like it will be a girl. I am ok either way. girls feel safe and i have her named, a boy would be a whole new adventure for us! and that might be really good.

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Joined: 10/17/06
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Wowee! Holy blast from the past! Congrats mama!

HockeyTownMom's picture
Joined: 05/20/02
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Congrats Erika! I'm hardly on this site anymore since my baby making days are over.

ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
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Thanks everybody, I haven't been around to much either Kristina, just lurking ehre or there - but now I have a reason to drag me back Smile I still chat with Chimmy (Julia). Hvane't heard from Jennie (Selkiemom) in ages. Is she ever around these parts?

HockeyTownMom's picture
Joined: 05/20/02
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I keep up with Julia on facebook. I haven't seen Jennie either.

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Joined: 09/29/05
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Congrats Erika and welcome back. I lurk some but not too often since I'm done having kids. I am a doula and a student midwife now though so I like to come here and get feedback sometimes. Smile

ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
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hi Illiana! so good to "see" you

Marite13's picture
Joined: 08/07/09
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Congrats on your pregnancy! I sort of recognize your face from around the boards in general, I guess, but I know I wasn't around for any of your births.

Can I ask about your transition from LLL to BF USA? I've never had a bad experience with my local group of LLL, but I know another mom who is moving forward with BF USA.

ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
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Sure Mara, I am pretty much an open book Smile I love LLL and what the founding mothers created. When those 7 women started meetings in their homes to support one another they never envisioned LLL as it exists today. They didn't make goals thinking ahead to what society might turn into. They were 7 wealthier,well off white women, who were all SAHM who wanted to see their babies breastfeeding, find societal support and help other mothers along the way. At the local level LLL is still filling a wonderful need. However the greater organization and structure is a huge MESS. So manya things have taken place over the last 6 years that have made me cringe and cry and caused great pain and heaviness in my heart. Founding mothers were pushed off the board, long standing faithful and dedicated Leaders were driven away, money was wasted, Information was ignored ect. Any organization goes through growing pains. but it got so bad. At one point some leaders were filing grievance concerns (through the grievance policy) and the board decided to eliminate the grievance policy in response. There is no transparency. Breastfeeding USA was founded by a group of long standing, dedicated LLL Leaders (many of whom are also IBCLC). At that point BFUSA welcomed any and all to come and study and learn and share. The mission was simple. Keep the focus on Breastfeeding. Be inclusive to all mothers of all races, creeds, parenting styles, working as well as SAHM and focus on evidence based breastfeeding information. When Nancy Morbachers book Breastfeeding Answers Made Simple was published. LLL made a sweeping statement tell all leaders they were NOT to use the book as a reference (this was after widespread complaints that the main text (The Breastfeeding Answer Book) was widely outdated and innacurate. Many leaders were outraged. Then new boundaries were formed and leader dues were more than doubled and group dues were also doubled. The board refused to provide any transparency and simply said the "fees" for paying the board and other duties were on the backs of leaders. That is what sent me right over the edge (along with the area dues, local dues, and the charges to both area, national and international for every fundraiser done) At the end of the day leaders were paying a LOT to volunteer their time, paying for texts, paying (or working their butts off) for group dues and getting NOTHING in return. No flyers, no handouts no nothing (everything was available for purchase) The combination of drastic cost increase couled with the refusal to allow working mothers to become leaders (despite some who pumped 100% and nursed into toddlerhood) put me over the edge. The board is a dictatorship. Breastfeeding USA is compeltely transparent. Every counselor get s avote, an equal vote and open say. IT is designed to serve ALL mothers and not shame moms who work, moms who do not co-sleep, moms who can't avoid seperation, moms who don't babywear. All those things are promoted - but always with an evidence based focus, always with the most current information, but always with the principal that breastfeeding is the primary focus. It was a very hard decesion. I love the founding LLL mothers I had the privledge of meeting, the women I served with, I love the mothers I served - the reality is I am serving the same mothers, and filling much the same role. Only I have an organization that helps me monetarily with things I need to make it better and grow, who is current on research and information, who is amazingly transparent on goals and where money is going, and doesn't cost me anything more than remaining a member. I never had a bad experience with a local "ground level" group. That is NOT why I left. I left because I was being abused and taken advantage of with no respect for my time, dedication, money, or service by the organization I was VOLUNTEERING for. The transition was simple for my group and actually we continue to grow more so that when it was LLL. In the end I think there is room in this Country for moe than one form of support for moms who wish to breastfeed, and I was to spend my time, money, and effort with the organization which is most focused on taking care of their volunteers and ALL Mothers wanting to breastfeed

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Joined: 11/07/06
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Hi Erika! your twins are the same age as my daughter, we were on here together then. Congrats on you pregnancy! We're pregnant together again this time! I'm due in August (but I had two more little critters in the meantime!!!)

The LLL story sounds completely crazy! It's so sad that such a long standing and wonderful organization should lose its focus and integrity that way. The odd thing is that I just got an email about a new LLL chapter opening near me in Israel, is the international program run by the same board? not that it would stop me from going to meetings, but I'm interested to know if it's connected.

HH9M to you! Looking forward to sharing the journey!

ErikaArcher's picture
Joined: 09/06/04
Posts: 379

awesome Ayelet! so fun Smile

Ultimately they are all linked. it should not stop moms from going to meetings, especially when their are no other options. It changes for me how to spend my volunteer hours and money.

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Joined: 08/07/09
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Thanks for sharing. I had heard that a lot of stuff "up high" was pretty messy. It really is unfortunate.