And thought this would be the best place to share my frustration. I made an appointment with a local CNM due to a few concerns I have for this pregnancy, and because I've been bouncing between homebirth vs hospital birth. I know of several people who are either currently seeing her, have seen her or know her very well. She IS very nice & I enjoyed my visit with her but walked away feeling a bit bugged by some of the things that went on. It may just be me, so I thought I would share them with you guys to get some opinons.
First, she knows I'm not sure if I want to deliver at home or hospital, she supports either decision. I shared with her that I birth fast & I birth quietly & because of this I worry that when I get to the hospital I wont be taken seriously. Her advice behave as if I'm having a baby right then & that I'm in more pain than I actually am. I don't like that. I don't want to lie to be taken seriously & I don't want to act as if I'm in pain when my goal is to NOT be in pain. I explained this to her. She said that that's just how L&D nurses are & to just fake it for awhile.
I then said I did not want an IV, I have never needed one & I find them obnoxious & frustrating when I'm trying to hold my new baby. She said that she'd compromise with me and I could use a heplock. That's not compromising in my book lol I don't want one. She then said because I have had more than 5 babies I have a higher chance of hemorraghing. Whatever. I don't agree. I then later on shared with her that my last placenta took about 45 minutes to come out & I need someone who will be patient with me. She then went back to the IV and said that due to me having more than 5 babies, and that my placenta's come out late I have a very high chance of retaining placenta and hemorraghing & she would just help things out with pitocin. At this point I was totally bugged.
I've never hemorraghed, I do think with my last baby I retained a bit of placenta but it came out just fine. I know the signs of it not coming out fine & would get looked at if that were the case. I think it's obnoxious to just use pit on me instead of allowing my body to do what it needs & IF I need some assistance then we can look at nursing and THEN pit if needs be.
I understand that a hemorraghe can happen fast, she also said if it does your veins go flat so getting and IV in would be difficult. But I think she's being too cautious - especially if she thinks I'm fine to birth at home too. It just seems so contradictory.
Am I being silly here?
I did get to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time today though & that was sweet. I love that sound.