Hi ladies! I'm thrilled (and if I'm being honest, a bit nervous) to be joining you! I'll give you some history but first and foremost, I'm here b/c I would like to have a totally natural pregnancy, labor, and delivery with this baby.
With my first child, I was young (newly 19), I went into labor naturally but was given a epidural and pitocin at 2 cm, I never really got to feel what labor felt like. I was also given neubane and slept through my labor, I had to be told when to push. I felt robbed but it was my fault for not educating myself, I guess-- I didn't know the first thing about having a baby or what to expect b/c there was nobody to talk to about it. My dad had raised me, I didn't know many other pregnant 19 year olds, and I really didn't know any other moms that would talk to me about it (and surely none that had had a natural birth themselves). My son was born posterior and they had to use a vaccuum to get him out, which really bruised his head. But, I got a healthy baby out of it in the end and didn't think much of it.
With my DD, she too was delivered posterior, but with no assitance. I was induced with her at 40 weeks 4 days b/c they were "concerned with size". I had the hardest labor with her, I got a good taste of labor (little did I know that this was a good taste of an INDUCED labor) with her. At 6 cm, I got an epidural and very quickly dilated to 10, before the nurse had even left the room or the epi. had time to kick in, I felt her coming. I didn't know what it was at first but then instinct took over and I told her the baby was coming now, she didn't belive I had dilated 4 cm (why they didn't trust a mother in labor, I dunno...) until she looked down and saw Zoey crowning. Zoey was almost born before the doctor even got in the room. The epidural kicked in while I was pushing but hadn't wore off by the time she was here, I had to spend the rest of the night in bed and cathed b/c my legs were to numb to walk.
After that experience, I got involved with birth boards online and started reading about all these amazing natural births, and most of the hospital births sounded terrifying. From there, I started doing my own research and have decided that this is the route for me this time. I'm seeing a midwife and I have to say, I have an amazing relationship with her!!! My Obgyn was so cold and professional, I was just another customer to him. She is so warm and personable, I'm much more than just another patient to her, and so is my baby. You can tell she LOVES what she does! She has assured me that all of that with my previous births could have been avoided with some simple techniques I could of done before and during labor and that my induced labor was so painful b/c it was just that, an induced labor.
I also am looking forward to breastfeeding this baby longer and exclusively. I quit breastfeeding my first and FF my second b/c of my job but I'm a SAHM mom now, so I'm blessed I can really give it my all. I'm also considering cloth diapering but still have a bit more research to do in this area.
I do have some questions though:
* For those that had a medicated birth with other children, do you feel differently about them after having a baby naturally? Maybe not as close? I've heard the bonding experience you have with a baby that was born naturally is sooo much more extreme than that of one born while you were medicated. I don't forsee something like this happening b/c we did breastfeed for awhile, co-slept, co-bathed, we did/do everything together and
are VERY close, but figured I'd ask since I don't know.
* Please tell me all you know about cloth diapers!!! What is your fav. brand? Pricing. How do you wash them? Do you wash them everyday or once a week? If you wash everyday and have a large family to start with, do you feel like you are constantly doing laundry, lol? I hear they are good on controlling breastmilk poo leaks, is this true? Which are better at doing this? What are inserts? What are prefolds? How exactly do these things work, lol? What sizes are there? How many do I need in each size?