Introducing myself

13 posts / 0 new
Last post
laneybug1's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 2 days ago
Joined: 10/18/13
Posts: 15
Introducing myself

I've been lurking here for awhile. I was a member of the December 2013 group but I started having problems with my account and I never fixed it so I haven't posted in a long time.

Anyways, I'm almost 31 weeks pregnant (will be tomorrow) due December 24th and hoping to have a natural birth. I have a midwife (I'm in BC so its a part of our medical system) and we're planning for both a hospital and a home birth because I can't make a decision of where I want to be. My heart wants to birth at home but my head says hospital. The midwives I'm with are totally fine with me planning for both and then making a day of decision.

raingirl28's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 11 months ago
Joined: 09/03/07
Posts: 1347

Congrats and welcome!

If you pop an email to Missy I believe she can merge old/new accounts and fix issues.

knhoward's picture
Offline
Last seen: 1 month 3 weeks ago
Joined: 04/22/08
Posts: 999

Welcome! I am also in Canada, but Ontario.

tink9702's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 8 months ago
Joined: 09/28/08
Posts: 2977

Welcome to the BN board!

eliann's picture
Offline
Last seen: 1 year 6 days ago
Joined: 04/19/11
Posts: 2441

Welcome and Congrats! I had a hard time making that same decision. It's great that you have the option to wait until the day though.

Looking forward to chatting more. Did you sign up for the lodge? We can start one for you when you turn 36 weeks. KUP.

laneybug1's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 2 days ago
Joined: 10/18/13
Posts: 15

How do I sign up for a lodge? Only 4 weeks until I'm 36 weeks.

eliann's picture
Offline
Last seen: 1 year 6 days ago
Joined: 04/19/11
Posts: 2441

I think you just post in the top sticky thread that says EDD/New arrival or something like that. Not too many ladies on here. I bet I will remember and start ya one!

tink9702's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 8 months ago
Joined: 09/28/08
Posts: 2977

Anyone can post your lodge for you, just let one of us know if we forget! Smile

Spacers's picture
Offline
Last seen: 10 months 3 weeks ago
Joined: 12/29/03
Posts: 4104

If your heart says stay at home, then go with that. If you or your baby needs to be the hospital, then obviously you go, but why expose yourself to those risks (interventions, infections, etc.) if you don't need to? I planned two home births but both times I ended up at the hospital for very different reasons. I'm glad the hospital was an option, but if home is an option, that's the best place to be.

laneybug1's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 2 days ago
Joined: 10/18/13
Posts: 15

Now that I have to go ahead to do both, I have a feeling I will be staying home as long as everything is going well. My DH is very supportive and wants me to feel comfortable but neither of our families is very supportive, we pushed them out of their comfort zone just getting a midwife. I figure that if we do get the home birth, we'll just say the baby came too fast and we stayed home (one of the reasons we're telling our families we don't want them at the hospital, we may not be there). I know that it isn't any of our families' business but we see them regularly (we live 5 minutes from my parents). DH's family wouldn't say anything but I know they weren't very happy when DH's cousin and his wife had a home birth. My family is very vocal with their opinions which is why I plan not to tell them.

gardenbug's picture
Offline
Last seen: 2 years 1 month ago
Joined: 03/12/07
Posts: 2025

Sorry your family can't allow you the peace involved in reaching your own decisions. I'm the Nana...and try hard to stay out of these issues...not always totally successful at it. But truly, our daughter and SIL make well informed decisions that work for them!

knhoward's picture
Offline
Last seen: 1 month 3 weeks ago
Joined: 04/22/08
Posts: 999

"laneybug1" wrote:

Now that I have to go ahead to do both, I have a feeling I will be staying home as long as everything is going well. My DH is very supportive and wants me to feel comfortable but neither of our families is very supportive, we pushed them out of their comfort zone just getting a midwife. I figure that if we do get the home birth, we'll just say the baby came too fast and we stayed home (one of the reasons we're telling our families we don't want them at the hospital, we may not be there). I know that it isn't any of our families' business but we see them regularly (we live 5 minutes from my parents). DH's family wouldn't say anything but I know they weren't very happy when DH's cousin and his wife had a home birth. My family is very vocal with their opinions which is why I plan not to tell them.

My DHs sister was not happy about the idea of a homebirth (she assumed because we had a midwife we were going to have a home birth) But anyways, we explained to her about the midwives having hospital privileges and that 75% of the midwives births are in hospital. We were planning a home birth all along, but didn't want to deal with family objections. We had our home birth, and everything went as planned and we were happy and healthy. We called everyone that day, and told them the baby was born at home, it's hard for families to say much after the fact, when everything turns out well.

laneybug1's picture
Offline
Last seen: 3 years 2 days ago
Joined: 10/18/13
Posts: 15

My family is incredibly supportive and my grandmother was a nurse-midwife up in the interior of British Columbia in the 1940s when doctors were hard to come by (they sort of still are). But I think home birth scares them a little. I figure if we do go ahead with one there's not much they can say after the fact. Although, at my midwife appointment yesterday she told us that both her and her partner will be taking holidays towards the end of December (at different times) so if there is only one of them and they are already attending a hospital birth then we will have to go there but she said the odds of pretty slim.