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    I have several friends who have had hospital births lately and one who is due 5 days after me and the more and more I hear about their doctors and what their doctors are encouraging and leading the moms on about, makes me so glad I'm not doing that again! Seriously, the friend that is due after me, this is her first btw and a boy to boot, she feels she will go early and her doctor hasn't prepared her to possibly count on going late. I know mothers intuition can be correct, it was for my second, but my first was off by 10 days for me and when I went past my "due date" I was an emotional wreck. I'm so glad to have a provider that actually tells you to prepare for going past due, especially first time moms. Not to mention the whole big baby card, your hips wont spread enough, or the going past due will kill your baby card I've heard a lot of lately. Oh and my personal favorite, "you don't want to be pregnant forever do you?"

    Those are just the few things I can remember right now. I can just hear what a doctor would have said when I declined the GD test, but my midwife didn't bat an eye at it.

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    Your assessment is really right on point. Doctors don't seem to be as attentive as mid wives. And with doctors your concerns aren't valid until they become the doctors concerns. I got a lecture over refusing internal exams. I finally caved and agreed to the strep B and a pap smear against my better judgement with DD2 (cuz of infections introduced with DD1). I am hoping that nothing happens, but when I brought up the "I can refuse any test" statement, they pulled out the "we can refuse to give you medical care" card and so I am learning that since I cannot deliver at home I really need to just listen to what they say. Congrats on the amazing mid wife!

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    My doctors both times were fine and other than a membrane sweep, induction was not mentioned until I was 41 weeks with DD1 and even then I still went into labour @ 41.5 weeks the day before my induction date.

    My main was everyone else The receptionists when I was prebooking my appointments would say I wouldn't be pregnant that long. My coworkers said they thought I'd go early based on how big I was. Random people saying I looked ready to pop. Parents phoning every day to see if I was in labour yet.

    With DD2 I set 42 weeks as my mental due date and that didn't turn out how I expected either.
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    I wasn't trying to say that all doctors are like that. But from what I have seen the majority are. With my first my doctor never said anything to me about me going early and in fact actually told me most first time moms go late. When I hit 40 weeks induction was brought up but she let me have the option of going to 42 weeks with monitoring after 41 weeks. Internal checks were always my option. She always asked if I wanted one but if I told her no she was fine with it. BUT with tests like the GD she would have given me a hard time with. Sadly from what I hear about her now is she has lost a lot of that and is becoming the usual doctor now. :-\
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    Yeah. I was really nervous when I had to switch doctors when we moved because I didn't want an intervention happy doctor.

    Mine have been good about inductions/breastfeeding/ NCB but I don't know how willing they are to let you skip certain tests. I did them so there was no issue.
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    I'm having to use an OB so far for this birth. Still have my fingers crossed that magic money will fall out of the sky so we can swing another HB with my MW. Anyway he came highly recommended in our small town (of 3 OBs and no MWs) and IMO is a piece of work. I routinely have to sit there and smile and nod so I don't say what I really think. He won't deliver me unless I agree to a c/s at 39 weeks, hospital rules even with a VBAC under my belt already. Luckily I only have 1 more appt. with this guy as I will be switching to hopefully a MW with a hospital I can deliver at.

    He is really pushy with testing, which I have nicely told him that I decline. And never tells me anything at our appts. like HB of LO or how my urin or BP looks. The kicker during my last appt. was that he told me that I HAD to stop nursing my 12 month old that week since it was dangerous for me and my baby. Never mind that I've never had preterm labor issues before. Not one question asked about my nursing plan or how I was feeling during nursing currently. Just that I had to stop NOW! I smiled and nodded and filed that in my 'disregard' file.

    I pretty much sit at each appointment is disbelief and thankfulness that this isn't my first time doing this and that I know so much more than I let on.
    ~Joy~ DS1-8/5/05, DS2-10/18/10 (VBAC#1), DS3- 4/11/12 (VBAC#2!)


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    after this LO is born, in the early spring, we are very likely moving to a non-NCB friendly area. i was concerned we'd have to moved before his birth, and am so thankful to get one more non-hostile NCB under my belt before dealing with a non-natural-friendly OB. i know that if we have another baby in our new town, that's what we'll be dealing with. ugh!
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