So lately i've just been thinking about the next time i get pregnant and what i would like to do with my care and delivery and what not, like if i'm going to go with my OB and do another natural hospital birth, or a midwife, or home birth, things like that. No i'm not planning on getting pregnant any time with in the next year, i'm just a planner. lol. To be honest i don't see myself doing another hospital birth with my OB, who i really do love btw, it just doesn't seem right. Every time i think about my next birth i picture it being at home ,with a mid wife, in a birthing tub, in our bedroom. I had a great natural birth experience in the hospital but it was still too sterile and medical for my taste. I was so comfortable laboring at home before i went in and when i went it i just wasn't as comfortable and was a little stressed about things not going my way. So as for now it's just a thought but when the time comes to make these decisions this will be one thing greatly on my mind. So don't be too surprised if i end up going the home birth route because that's really what i'm feeling is going to happen next time.
I could have written this. This is what I've been thinking lately, too. My natural hospital birth was a wonderful, empowering, victorious experience, but I really want a provider who is more hands-off next time. I love my OB, as well, but I didn't like how she kept checking me to see if I was complete yet and how she and the nurse were telling me what to do ("try not to push yet," "now, hold your breath and push!" etc). All of the talking made me confused and it would habe been better if I could have just tuned in to my body and done what it told me to. All of the disruption made me lose my focus and I wasn't able to use my hypnobabies relaxation for the rest of the birth, so I think it was more painful than it needed to be. I loved the 7 hours of my labor that took place at home and I remember at one point thinking how nice it would be to not have to go to the hospital. I also really like the idea of more holistic prenatal care that does more than just screen for pregnancy complications, but also teaches about nutrition, exercise, etc and considers the emotional aspects of childbearing as well.
You know Brittany, we have turned out very similar in many ways. lol. Our fist births were both induced, and didn't turn out the way we had envisioned. We decided to go the natural birth with our next births but liked the comfort of being in the hospital, so found a NCB friendly OB. Both did some form of Hypnosis for birthing and both came out with success story's and feeling very empowered. Now we are both thinking that with our next birth we will do it in the comfort of our own home. Now what would be the most ironic part is if we both get pregnant at the same time and have the baby's the same day or with in a few days of each other.
Cyber twins? I've known several people to move to home birth or birth center birth after NCB in a hospital. I had planned to do it that way as well, but decided to skip that step and just do a home birth instead.
I was a lot like that, too. About 2 months after my (great but "rule oriented") hospital VBAC I was on the phone with a HBAC midwife talking about my next birth, even though I knew that it would be about 2 years away at that point. Now here we are exactly 2 years later about to have our third baby and our first home birth with that very same midwife. I think that its a great thing to think about in advance and you might as well take the non pregnant time to enjoy taking your time finding a provider or visualizing exactly what it is that you want for your next go at pregnancy! good luck!
Your right, Krista, there are a lot of similarities to our stories. It would be crazy if we both ended up having our 3rd ones at the same time.
I did really consider having a homebirth with Teio, but there are very few homebirth midwives in my current area. Had we stayed in Phoenix, I probably would have because there are a lot of MWs there and we lived VERY close to the nearest hospital. I was already 3 months preg when we moved here and all I was hearing was that there really wasn't anyone in the area who does homebirths, so I just went with the hospital because my OB was highly recommended and I liked her when I met her. I have recently learned of a few MWs who are within an hour of here who will come here for homebirths. If I had really wanted to find someone, I probably could have, but I didn't have a lot of time and I think I also wasn't totally ready to make that departure from cultural norms.