(I hope no one else minds!)
Those of you who are LDS might be interested in reading the guest post I wrote for The Gift of Giving Life about how the Young Women program applies to pregnancy and childbirth:
We are Daughters: Preparing Young Women for Pregnancy and Childbirth
I e-mailed the link to both my mom and my friend (who is having her 3rd baby soon and planning a NCB) because they are both YW presidents. Feel free to pass it on to anyone you think might benefit from reading it.
That is very cool! I like this statement right here because this is exactly where I am at in my family, "Sometimes your choices may not be popular, but integrity means holding fast to your principles in the face of any opposition you may receive from anyone who may disagree with your choices, whether they are friends, family, or medical professionals."
My family is full of Medical people and they can't understand why I would put me or my baby in so much danger by doing a birth outside of a hospital. I have earnestly prayed about my decision, going into praying without wanting a home birth, mind you, and I was guided toward the decision of a home birth. Every time I think about it I feel peace and excitement for it. Right now home birth isn't on the table with DH, thanks to insurance issues, but even the choice of going with a midwife in a hospital and going with as little medical intervention as possible feels more right than going with a doctor again. But it seems that no matter how much I try to tell my family these things they think I'm making a huge mistake or that I've gone off the deep end, I mean "womens body's just don't work right anymore so they NEED that help from the doctors. If you don't get it you are dangerous and risking your life and the baby's."
IMO if God is going to give us the great power and ability to create life why would he make it so the rest of the process wont work right? I understand that in some situations things really don't work right but in at least 85% of births things would work right had the doctors not meddled.
Like the brain? I really don't mean to sound rude, but God gave us one of those too and we are supposed to use it...and with tolerance and kindness as well. Families sometimes forget that part and it mystifies me. Life isn't easy and we need to support each other as best as we can! There are many ways to arrive at the happy & healthy baby result....not just one.IMO if God is going to give us the great power and ability to create life why would he make it so the rest of the process wont work right?
Leo (3 1/2) with Malcolm the cat
It's not rude it's the truth. The truth hurts sometimes. Luckily most of my immediate family are fairly supportive. They don't understand my choice and do think i'm taking a big risk but they aren't the ones being rude when I talk about it. It's actually extended family that are saying these things to me. I never have had much support from them anyway and have never gotten along with most. I'm the youngest of most of my cousins, I have one my age and one younger but both are guys, and so they think being older, they are wiser and know more. Especially sense they've had kids, all of which the doctor saved the lives of. *insert rolling eyes*
I'm glad my post was helpful for you, Krista. I'm sorry you have family members who are opposed to your choices. I haven't really told much of my family that I'm interested in homebirth, but I do have extended family members who have planned or had homebirths (I know one of my aunts, one of my dad's sisters, had at least one and my cousin, my dad's brother's daughter, transfered to the hospital from home due to PROM and being GBS+) so I think the idea won't sound totally crazy to everyone when/if they hear about it.