Lurker Introducing Myself

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Lurker Introducing Myself

Hello Ladies. My name is Melissa and I am due with my second little girl in early August. I have been lurking on this site almost daily for a few months now, but was hesitant to post an intro due to some reservations about my docs office and my ability to birth naturally.

I was induced with DD (very long story) and was in labor for 42 hours, but I got the natural birth I wanted. However, we were living in Germany at the time b/c DH is military. We have sense moved back to the States and live in Vermont where our insurance is only accepted at one Obstetrics/Midwife practice. I really want the midwife to deliver, but there is only one in the practice and 6 obs. During your pregnancy you rotate through the docs/mw and get whoever is on call when you go in to deliver.

From other military wives I had heard some negative comments about several of the docs, but after meeting most of them and talking with them, I feel confident they will support me in my decision to birth naturally.

Some of the things that we have discussed and I am very happy about include not offering any pain meds unless I request, no IV or heplock, intermittant monitoring with freedom of movement, and laboring in position of my choosing.

I'm sorry this ended up being so long, but I am excited to join you ladies and am looking forward to another natural birth.

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Welcome! That's great that you're feeling supported by your OB/MW practice!

I used to live in Vermont, up until a year ago. Where are you located?

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Welcome!! I really hope that everything goes the way you want. It sounds like they really are being pretty agreeable. I have heard of people having to fight pretty hard for the things that they are willing to compromise on.

Just a thought: If you are military I am assuming you are on Tricare Prime? If so, have you considered switching to Tricare Standard? If you do, your maternity care is covered 100% whether the provider is in-network or out of network. The only co-pays you would have are if you go to the doctor for something that is not maternity related, and there is a cap of $1000 a year. So if and when you reach that amount you don't have to pay anything else out of pocket. But then you can choose whichever doctor you want. You can even have a CNM and/or deliver in a birth center if that is available in the area. Also, the baby automatically goes on Prime if your sponsor is active and you enroll in DEERS. So your Tricare Standard status will not effect any of your other family members.

I didn't do it last pregnancy and wish I had. It is so much easier than what I had been told. Basically all you do is dis-enroll in Prime and then you automatically go to standard and you can begin choosing your own providers. And I never knew that no matter what plan you are on, maternity care is covered 100%.

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Hi Melissa! Yay for another August Mama!!

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Hey, Melissa! Good to see you hear- congrats on the pregnancy! Lori is due the same month as you (though, as a sister of mine, is unlikely to make it to August).
That's tough that your options are so limited, but sounds like you have things under control.

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Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy, Melissa! It sounds like your practice is pretty open to working with you. I hope you have a good experience with them. I also hope you can avoid induction this time. I prefer spontaneous labor to induction, in my own experiences.

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"lbff" wrote:

Welcome! That's great that you're feeling supported by your OB/MW practice!

I used to live in Vermont, up until a year ago. Where are you located?

We live close to Montpelier. My husband is attending Norwich University and will become an officer once he graduates. Where in VT did you live?

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"krazykat" wrote:

Just a thought: If you are military I am assuming you are on Tricare Prime? If so, have you considered switching to Tricare Standard? If you do, your maternity care is covered 100% whether the provider is in-network or out of network. The only co-pays you would have are if you go to the doctor for something that is not maternity related, and there is a cap of $1000 a year. So if and when you reach that amount you don't have to pay anything else out of pocket. But then you can choose whichever doctor you want. You can even have a CNM and/or deliver in a birth center if that is available in the area. Also, the baby automatically goes on Prime if your sponsor is active and you enroll in DEERS. So your Tricare Standard status will not effect any of your other family members.

I am on Tricare Prime and did think about switching to Standard, but this is such a small area my options for care would be pretty much the same. If I didn't feel comfortable with my docs now I would have switched and traveled the hour+ to see someone else, but I feel pretty comfortable now.

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"jooniper" wrote:

Hey, Melissa! Good to see you hear- congrats on the pregnancy! Lori is due the same month as you (though, as a sister of mine, is unlikely to make it to August).
That's tough that your options are so limited, but sounds like you have things under control.

It's good to see you too. Lori and I actually have the same EDD, but with her history of going early and mine of going late I doubt our LO's will share a birth day. I'm very happy for you and your expected December homebirth.

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"MrsMangoBabe" wrote:

Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy, Melissa! It sounds like your practice is pretty open to working with you. I hope you have a good experience with them. I also hope you can avoid induction this time. I prefer spontaneous labor to induction, in my own experiences.

I don't regret my induction as my daugther was very sick and things could have gone horribly if she wasn't born when she was, but I am hoping to have spontaneous labor this time. I have talked with the docs and they are comfortable letting me go 42+ weeks as long as everything is looking okay. They did say to be prepared for some resistance if I hit 42 weeks, but I can handle that.

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Welcome!

I really hope you get the birth you are looking for. It seems hard these days to get support from OB's for a natural birth.

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"mjones6102" wrote:

We live close to Montpelier. My husband is attending Norwich University and will become an officer once he graduates. Where in VT did you live?

We were just south of Burlington, and loved living there. My parents still live in the area, so we get up from time to time.

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Welcome and good luck! I hope you have the experience you are aiming for this time.

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Welcome! I lurked for a long time before coming out of hiding. I hope your birth goes just the way you want it!

kvo
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Sounds like the OBs are willing to do a lot in terms of honoring your requests. I had to switch to get the no hep-lock agreement.

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Welcome!!!

I hope everything stays well at the OB office, and that you get the birth you want!!

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Welcome! I'm glad your feel comfortable with the practice you are at now and will aim to get the birth you want.

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Welcome! I look forward to hearing how this one goes for you!