Today I met with the partner of the midwife I met previously so that I could meet her before making a committment. As I mentioned in another thread, they just started taking appointments at a local office (their normal office is 50 miles away), and the office is really nice--it's a naturopathic physician/acupuncturist, and it smelled like a spa in there I am technically not a patient yet because we haven't paid the $500 depositt, but we went ahead and listened to the heartbeat and it sounded great! She said that the location and difficulty in finding the heartbeat was typical of nearly-12 weeks, so she considers that a pretty good confirmation of my EDD.
I really like the midwife I met today, L. She is very motherly--the other one (K) is younger and seems more like a sister, they are a good team. I'm kind of glad K was there, so I could re-assess the vibe from her. I wasn't totally sure about her when I first met her, but I think maybe it was just not a great time, because I liked her better today. I asked L about her training. She said that WA state midwifery licensing requirements are the toughest in the U.S., and very similar to those in some other countries. She said that she has actually done midwifery school twice because she had a back injury at the end of it the first time, and by the time she was treated and recovered, everything had expired and she had to do it all over again. She studied under a high-risk OB specialist, and ended up working under him for like 3 years and got a ton of experience in all stuff you usually don't hardly ever see in homebirth.
K came in for part of the time, after she finished with another patient who was there. They were ecstatic to learn that I am getting certified as a Hypnobabies instructor, and said they will definitely refer clients to me. We talked some about what I felt was wrong with DS's birth. They seemed to think my OB intervened too much with her management of the cervical lip--they said they probably wouldn't have even checked me unless I started pushing and found it painful, THEN they would have possibly done something about the cervical lip. They also thought I had a hard time pushing because I was instructed to push as soon as I was complete, and I probably didn't have a strong urge to push yet, ("rest and be thankful" phase) which I think they are totally right about. And they are big supporters of keeping mother and baby together during third stage, something I have not yet been able to do in a hospital.
I'm really feeling like I'll be in good hands with these midwives. I actually probably could have written the check today, but there is paperwork I need to fill out and the kids were getting restless, so L said I could print off the paperwork from their website and we could meet again next week to do all the business stuff.
Sorry this is so long. I find writing really helpful in processing and decision-making.