Natural Miscarriage?

16 posts / 0 new
Last post
mom2sebastian's picture
Joined: 08/14/04
Posts: 64
Natural Miscarriage?

I am (was) just shy of 10 weeks pregnant. Yesterday I went to see my midwife because of some light pink spotting. Long story short, one of the OBs did an ultrasound, and found that there was no longer a heartbeat and the baby was only measuring 8ish weeks.
I was offered a D&C, aa well as medication to induce a miscarriage, which I declined. I'm being "given" two weeks to allow the miscarriage to happen on its own, and I'm really struggling. I want to honor this baby with a gentle end, just like I would have in birth. In birth I would not use medication or surgery just because. And yet, I'm really struggling with the waiting. My understanding is that it will be a long, hard process, and that I will be able to see the baby. The surgical alternative, however, is even more devastating to me. M

Does anyone have any experience with allowing a miscarriage to unfold naturally?

lexirunner's picture
Joined: 05/10/06
Posts: 460

I had a natural m/c a few years ago. I was about 8 weeks along, but baby was smaller... closer to 7 weeks. I went in because I started spotting, and that's when they found no hb. They told me that because I was spotting, my body was already aware that things were not right and I should be able to pass everything naturally. It took about a week of spotting before things really started.

I hope this passes quickly for you so you can take time to heal. So sorry for your loss.

Danifo's picture
Joined: 09/07/10
Posts: 1377

Sorry you have to deal with this Sad

I found out at my 12 week U/S that fetal demise occurred at 8 weeks. I wanted a D&C right away but they wanted to have me try to have a natural m/c so they scheduled it for 1.5 weeks later. At 13 weeks, I had my m/c. For me, I had contractions 1 minute long every 4 minutes for 4 hours. The pain was pretty close to when I was actually in labour except in labour mu contractions were closer. I did experience the relief when it was over similar to after labour when the pain is over and I felt great.

5 days later I had severe hemmoraging and had to have an emergency D&C to stop the bleeding. I was bleeding through a heavy pad in less than 5 min. I had leftover product of conception which is apparently common in missed m/c.

For me, I had trouble moving on with daily life until I felt it was over. I found waiting the 7 days hard. The nurses at the loss clinic were pushing me to wait it out but also said it could be a few more weeks. However the doctors said the later it happens, the more likely you are to have an incomplete m/c and need a d&c anyways.

Danifo's picture
Joined: 09/07/10
Posts: 1377

I should add that during my m/c there was lots of blood but I never saw the baby. I don't know if that's because it was incomplete or if there was so much blood I just didnt.

Joined: 12/10/05
Posts: 1681

I am so sorry for your loss.

I think I would that the medication to induce the miscarriage. I do think it is better to not have a d&c, unless necessary. The cramping will be painful and hopefully they could give you something to take.

You may be able to see the baby, but not everyone can. I think it partially depends on how quickly it passes and the gestation the baby stopped growing.

Hoping it all goes easily for you...

Jenn0113's picture
Joined: 03/09/07
Posts: 5335

I'm so sorry for your loss.

When I m/c I was about 6-7 weeks along and it was very painful. I think if I would have been offered meds I would have declined too, however, if it ever happened again I think I would take them. I experienced quiet a bit of pain, like contractions, as well as heavy bleeding and I saw something, although I can't be certain what it was.

T&P for you as you go through this difficult time.

Jbaum2's picture
Joined: 04/19/11
Posts: 257

We went through one in May of this year. I didn't want a D&C and I didn't want to wait 3 weeks again for it to happen on its own.

I use a natraul product for my menstral cramps which specifically states DO NOT USE WHEN PREGNANT. it causes the uterus to contract. I rubbed some on my stomach and the next day it started. I continured to use it daily and I was done all bleeding by the 5th day.

Its called Moon Cycle 2 and you get it at saje.

All the best to you.

TyrantOfTheWeek's picture
Joined: 12/26/05
Posts: 1147

Couldn't you also try herbals like black/blue cohosh, vitex, red raspberry?

Lots-o-Tots's picture
Joined: 01/29/06
Posts: 574

Very sorry for your loss.

cactuswren's picture
Joined: 10/19/09
Posts: 4658

I'm very sorry for your loss as well. M/C are so hard.

I had two natural m/c's, but both were VERY early--5 weeks--so I did not see the baby and once the spotting started, it only took a day for the real m/c to begin. Both were very painful, although not as bad or nearly as long as actual labor, of course (at least not mine). In your position I think I would agree with delaying on a D&C unless it becomes necessary, but I might try some herbal or other more gentle methods to encourage things to begin, if it was taking more than a day or two.

But it's a very personal choice!

mommys's picture
Joined: 05/08/06
Posts: 6264

very sorry for your loss

I had a natural m/c last year. I didn't actually m/c until 14 weeks even though baby had stopped growing at 8W. I never saw the baby. Starting at 13W, I had spotting that increased over several days. Eventually the miscarriage occured in the middle of the night. It was painful but fast. DH was there to help me through it.

Joined: 08/03/07
Posts: 3247

:bigarmhug: So sorry you have to go through this.

In January I miscarried around 10 weeks also and opted for it to happen naturally. I had an increase in bleeding over a week and an hour of minor cramping and that was it. Not a lot of tissue passed and my midwife suggested it could have been a blighted ovum.

As hard as it is let yourself mourn properly, I've been struggling with that.

Cindy

ToriBella's picture
Joined: 02/12/10
Posts: 17

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had a natural m/c a couple years ago. It happened around 8w, and it was painful. I wouldnt say super unbearable, but it was definitely like bad period cramps. For me it lasted less than a day, though the spotting was consistent for a few days before the actual m/c, and got heavier each day. I did see something, I'm pretty sure it was the baby. I took a silent moment, and then kept on with my day. It was very difficult though. Lean on friends and family in this time for support.

mom2sebastian's picture
Joined: 08/14/04
Posts: 64

Thank you for all of your replies. I was really struggling between wanting things to unfold "naturally", and wanting to just get it over with.

I ended up miscarrying on my own, beginning a week after I found out that the baby had died. I would have been just shy of 11 weeks. The baby measured perfectly at our ultrasound...7 weeks, 2 days, with a strong heartbeat. But, the ultrasound when I "found out" showed that the baby was only measuring 8ish weeks.

The miscarriage took over 7 hours. It wasn't physically painful...like menstrual cramps. But there was a lot of blood, and I passed about 20-30 large clots...ranging in size from a strawberry to an orange. By the end, I was feeling pretty out of it. Felt like I was going to pass out. So, we headed to the hospital in the middle of the night. I was pumped full of fluids to compensate for blood loss, and ended up having a D&C that afternoon (my 35th birthday!), because the uterine wall was still really thick, and there were fragments remaining that continued to have blood flow.

I apologize for posting all this on this board. I know I'm not very active around here anymore (as my youngest is 4), but this is where I find the most support in my beliefs about birth. Although this wasn't birth-related, I still needed to hear from some natural-minded mamas...especially at a time when things weren't unfolding normally.

Starryblue702's picture
Joined: 04/06/11
Posts: 5454

I've never been through this personally, but I just wanted to send some T&P your way... I'm so sorry for your loss.

momW's picture
Joined: 09/29/09
Posts: 5634

:bigarmhug: So sorry for your loss Sad Thoughts and prayers are with you!