This will most likely end up being long, I apologize in advance.
I am currently almost 10 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby. After thinking about it for awhile, I decided against having the same birth I had last time. My first two babies were unmedicated, in a hospital, with an OB. With my 3rd, I ended up having an epidural. I fully believe this had everything to do with having little support. I was terrified, and I felt alone, which made the pain intensify. I was so ready to go home after I gave birth to her, but they "made" me stay for the requisite 24 hours because that's just what they do. I was threatened with legal action if I signed myself out AMA, and I could not have taken my daughter home. I stayed.
As I was researching a doula today, I found the website of the only practicing CNM on this side of the state. Midwives here don't have hospital privileges, and there are no birthing centers. If I want a midwife, I have to birth at home.
Now, I don't mind the idea of a homebirth, when it's in theory LOL I have a lot of friends who have had home births and LOVED them, but it's something completely new to me. I had my first 2 babies with no intervention, even an IV, but I was in a hospital, etc. I'll be honest, I'm scared. My mother and aunt (who lives with my mom) are completely supportive, and have told me I'm welcome to birth there. (They live about 5 blocks from me, but have a very open floor plan and lots of room.) I would not tell my in-laws. So, to my point, I have some questions for you all hehe
1. Not including your midwife, how much did you spend on supplies, etc for your birth?
2. Were your other children there? How old and how did they handle it?
3. For those that have had both an OB and a midwife, what do you like better or worse about each in your care/labor/delivery?
I think I'm still getting used to the idea. I meet with the midwife at 11am tomorrow, and I'm half excited, half terrified. I've had the same doctor for all 3 of my children, I think I'm just ready for something more. I've done a lot of research and I'm not discounting the safety or efficacy of home birth, and I love great home birth stories, I think it's just never been real for ME, because up until recently, it was not an option here. Now that it is, I'm seriously considering it. Thanks