Although I've been lurking for months, I thought I'd officially introduce myself before I started posting on the lodges.
My name is Andrea. I'm 33. This is my 4th pregnancy and my 3rd child. I had a nightmare of a first labor and delivery mostly due to terrible baby position (posterior vertex and not budging). I had an epidural and a forceps delivery after hours of pushing. My recovery was terrible due to a 4th degree tear.
All of the next pregnancy I was full of worry about labor and delivery. I did everything I could to get baby positioned more favorably. At 39 weeks I was 4cm dilated and baby was in the perfect position, so I had my membranes swept and went into labor that night. I labored alone in the tub for a few hours before we headed to the hospital. It was so much easier than the last time and I kept calm. I was at 6cm when we checked in so I said, "Woohoo. I can get my epidural right away!" Shortly after checking in I started puking and feeling like I couldn't handle the wait for the epidural. The anesthesiolgist got to me and got my epidural going. I felt relief and the pressure at the same time. A nurse lifted my sheet for a quick check and started laughing because my bag of waters was hanging out. It was go time. I had gotten my epidural during transition. It only took a few pushes, but once again, I tore a bit and had to have a cathetar in for about 12 hours or so. That sucked.
Now we're on my last pregnancy and I know I'm strong enough to do without the epidural. I almost made it last time, but didn't realize it until afterwards. My husband and I are planning to use the Bradley method and I've been reading lots and lots of natural birth stories. I've also been working out throughout this pregnancy. In a couple of weeks I'll start with my baby positioning methods (all based off of an article on how to avoid a posterior labor). I've been seeing a chiropractor also. I hope this labor and delivery goes as fast as the last one!
So there's a bit about me. I'm so glad there's a place on PO to talk about natural birth. Your stories have really inspired me!
Welcome! Glad you decided to introduce yourself. Sorry the first birth was tough and glad the second one was a bit better.
Hoping this one is exactly what you want and it all goes great for you.
Hello and welcome!
You should also look into making sure you and DH do perineal massage. I had a nice sized episiotomy during my last birth (dr freaked when she came out butt first) and my mw this birth is very adamant that DH and I do the massaging to help avoid a tear to that site. I have a good friend that had a 4th degree tear, those things are nasty to heal from, sorry you had to go through that!
Can't wait to hear more about you and your journey. Are you feeling pretty good so far?! Are your girls excited? It looks like you're team green, right?
Thanks for the welcome, Kimia! You sure don't have much time left. Yay!
Are you guys taking a class, Claire? We don't have any nearby so we're using a book and practicing on our own. It's pretty funny when my DH does kegels with me, yes, WITH me. He's a goof and a taskmaster...and is getting nice strong kegel muscles of his own.
Thanks for the advice, momW. I'm sure I could get my DH on board with perineal massage. My girls are super excited and we're actually team BLUE. I guess I haven't updated my signature. I would have been happy either way, but I'm really hoping for a little curly-haired boy because that's what I've always envisioned, even before we TTC the first time. I'm feeling good for the most part, just sore and getting big - basically feeling like I'm in the 3rd trimester.
A curly haired little boy would be so cute! I have a couple of little red heads myself, I had hoped DS would also have curls but he doesn't, DD2 got the curls.
I was going to say that my DH would be thrilled to give me a perineal massage. LOL that is really good advice though. I do not want to tear horribly either. I tore last time, but it wasn't too bad., but I give all the credit to my MW bc she told me when to push and got out the oil and everything to help me.
We are using the book as well. I thought about taking the classes, but they are pricey(plus we'd have to pay for a sitter each week) and it was hard for me to imagine us getting to the class each week between our crazy schedules right now because of work & school. LOL about your DH doing kegels with you! I am trying to get mine to master the massage right now. Every night I have been making him practice. You could say that I am taking advantage of him a little bit, but the book does say to practice. The cool thing is that he is being really supprtive about it all. I know I could do it without him and be okay, but its really nice to have him involved.
Welcome! Thank you for sharing your experiences. It's always nice to know where people are coming from when choosing natural birth. I think you really hit the nail on the head with saying how you were so close in your last birth despite not realizing it at the time. It's amazing what our bodies can do. I hope this birth will be just how you want it to be.
Leo (3 1/2) with Malcolm the cat
And can y'alls hubbys talk to mine? He took one look at the info book I got in my hypnobabies about perineal massage and said, "you're going to do this by yourself when I'm not around right?" Clueless!