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    Default No! You cant DO that! 24 week appt update(xp)

    To start off with:

    Everything is fine with baby star.

    No worries there.

    HOWEVER, my appointment lasted about 2 whole minutes today.

    Dr B is a DO, very carefully chosen as a VBAC friendly provider who supports natural childbirth AND delivers at the hospital nearest to me. Hardly anybody else here is VBAC friendly, including her partners.

    Here was the conversation:

    Doctor B: Hi Laurie. Im so glad you had an appointment today. I knew this would spread fast once I told the hospital and I didnt want you to hear it from anybody else. Just so you know, Im moving out of town permanently in July, so I wont be here to deliver your baby.

    me: .....

    Doctor B: How is everything?

    me: um....great until just now.

    Doctor B: you know my partners dont REFUSE to do VBACs....

    me: yeah, but they're known for avoiding them at all costs and yelling at people who want them.

    Doctor B; well....

    me: yeah.

    Doctor B: We're on an every 2 week schedule now, you can schedule an appointment with me at least for now and we'll see how it goes.

    me: ok...

    UGH.

    Im SO NOT HAPPY.

    I set an appt with a CNM midwife group for 2 weeks from today, but it's 30 minutes away and at a hospital Im not that familiar with. the upside is I can use a tub and have intermittent monitoring and eat/drink, etc. the downside is that I want to go to the hospital that is 2 miles from me (where I've been talking with the L&D staff, have free childbirth and sibling classes, and is where I WORK)! ARGH!!!!!

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    ((HUGS)) That totally sucks. I believe this is a womens' rights issue. Would you consider a homebirth? Many HBMW's do VBACS.

    That just sucks. I'm sorry!
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    I'm sorry your doctor is moving. 30 minutes is really not that bad to travel, though. I had both of my kids at hospitals that were about 30 min away, even though there were closer hosptials I could have gone to because the hosptials were a better choice for me. In fact, with my DD, I also worked at the closer hospital, that I didn't use (I worked at the hospital's employee daycare). I hope you like the CNMs and their hospital. That sounds like a better option than going to your current doctor's partners and having to fight for your VBAC.
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    I think in the end you won't regret the extra travel time to the midwives.

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    that bites, but 30 mins shouldn't be so bad a commute. Hopefully you'll be able to feel more comfortable about it as time goes on.
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    *sigh* I hope I'll get used to it soon/be happy with it when I go for the appointment.

    I personally cant do a homebirth or birth center birth - not due to concern about the maternity care/labor process, but because Im a pediatrician and I've seen WAY to much to be comfortable anywhere where there isnt a NICU immediately available.

    I also kinda dont want to rehash Brayden's birth AGAIN and defend my decision why Im NOT doing the GCT AGAIN.

    Ugh.

    STar

    ETA: The other thing I will miss is the 24 hour availability that my OB gave me - I could text her whenever I wanted - professional courtesy, since we work together regularly. I wont have that with the midwives.

    ETA again: But I AM excited about the availability of waterbirth, intermittent monitoring and being able to eat/drink as needed.
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    I am sorry. I really hope it works out ok for you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by rmacburn View Post
    I think in the end you won't regret the extra travel time to the midwives.
    Yep. What she said.

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    Is she the ONLY VBAC friendly doc at your hospital? You said you were talking to the L&D nurses frequently, maybe they could point you to another OB with a similar track record? DH always uses the L&D nurses as resources for finding the best OB for me and so far they've been right.
    Like the others said, 30 mins isn't that bad and you may completely fall in love with the practice! Good luck!
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    The L&D nurses recommend the head of OB there. The issue is that I've spoken with her (Dr C) and am not exactly happy. #1, she doesnt have office hours on my half day off, so I'd have to take off of work to go see her, which is HUGE as how much I work right now will affect my salary for the next year (Im a doc). #2, I've sat in L&D and talked "shop talk" with her. The deal she makes with her VBAC moms is this: she'll let them labor according to hospital policy (continuous monitors, but they do have submersible telemetry), but if you get to 40 weeks and you havent had your baby? You're getting cut.

    She *is* good about positioning and movement and all that fun stuff, knows a LOT of tips and tricks for getting stubborn babies out, etc, but given that Brayden was induced at 40+2, Im REALLY not sure that she's the one for me. Im waiting for feedback from the LC/L&D nurse that I know really well - she's asking around for me, but the next 2 on the list she's given me so far are guys, and Ive talked to 1 of them (Ironically, Dr D) who told me he DOESNT do VBACs... so....


    yeah.

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