Not sure if this is the right place, home birth?

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Not sure if this is the right place, home birth?

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Sorry if this is the wrong place, but I had some questions so that I can be prepared for any circumstance that may happen!

My plan is to have a minimally invasive hospital birth and my OB is very on board with this. I don't want a home birth for multiple reasons, but I don't really want to get into that.

What I am worried about is this labor going like my DS's did.
I had no idea I was in labor until my water broke and then it was obvious I was in transition and he was born in under 5 minutes of pushing. I happened to already be at the hospital when this happened though, being checked on for what I was pretty sure was my water leaking(and it was, but at first I just thought I was peeing myself :confused: lol!)

I live out in the middle of nowhere, 20 minutes from 911/support and another 30 minutes from the hospital.

And I live alone...

I want to be prepared if the situation arises that I end up birthing at home while waiting for someone to show up.

I'm not afraid of the situation, whatever happens will happen, but I want to make sure I actually have the supplies needed in case I have to suction the baby or cut the cord or whatever.

I would also love to read up on "what to do when" type stuff.

Like: I was going to do delayed cord clamping in the hospital, but if I have the baby at home... should I just do lotus until help arrives?

What about monitoring my own bleeding or checking the placenta to make sure it is whole? I am not opposed to eating some placenta if I am bleeding too much. I've heard this is something you can do to help?

Mostly I am looking for a good supply list, some how tos, and encouragement.

I still have plenty of time to prepare and read up, but I want to start ASAP to make sure I feel secure if it does happen.

TIA

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Yes, you've come to the right place! Personally, if that was my situation & I was not planning a home birth, I would probably choose to stay somewhere closer to "help" the last few weeks of my pregnancy. Do you at least have a neighbor nearby who could/would come be with you while waiting for an ambulance?

Check your local library or Ebay for a copy of "Emergency Childbirth," by Dr. Gregory White. It's an older book that is now out-of-print, but there are tons of copies out there still. It was designed for paramedics to carry before they all had good radios & could have someone giving them good information. I've heard there's a printable PDF floating around on the internet but I don't have time to look for it right now.

The best advice about the placenta is to leave it attached, and leave it alone. Unless the placenta itself is losing blood, then it's a good idea to tie off so baby doesn't lose any blood. Don't worry about whether it's intact or not, because there's not much you can do for it yourself, and your body will work to push out any pieces left.

The only things I can think to have on hand for an "emergency" home birth would be a snot sucker, cord clamps or dental floss in case the cord needs to be tied, and a printout on how to perform infant CPR. I would also ask my doctor if he could prescribe a syringe of Pitocin or tablets of Methergine to have on hand in case of severe bleeding. Eating a piece of placenta is also a great idea; it saved my step-sister's uterus when the modern medicines didn't stop her hemorrhage. Just remember that when birth happens that fast, it's usually because things are going well. Blum 3

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Here is a site that offers some information. It's more for planned unassisted homebirths but it does have information about the labor and delivery portion that would be applicable to an accidental unassisted birth.

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I don't have a way to stay any closer, sadly. My mom does work with a guy that is a couple miles down the road from me that his wife might come over in an emergency, but I don't know them personally.

Mostly I just want to be prepared in case this sort of thing happens. I'm not against or afraid of a home birth, it just isn't my ideal birthing scenario. I do have a girlfriend who has had 2 unassisted home births that said I can call her if I need to, she lives across country, but at least she'd be some form of live support.

I went over a few websites on supplies and most of them are things I will already have, but I want to make sure I am informed.

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Does this look like the right PDF? I think it does to me http://www.rixafreeze.com/pdf/gregorywhite.pdf

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I also tend to have short labors, which is one of my reasons for choosing HB. It also looks like we're due around the exact same time - and uncannily enough, I also live about 30 minutes from the closest hospital! (and my mw lives about 30 minutes away from me too)

It sounds like you're very well informed and well educated - I don't have anything to add as far as information, but I'll add support! It sounds to me like you're going to be just fine and that you're going to have a great birth wherever you are.

Hope you stick around the board so we get to hear about it!

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I will Smile I have never been opposed to home birthing, but I have specific reasons for wanting a hospital birth. Mostly my friends(that do HB) think I am silly for my reasons, but they are what make me comfortable and happy. My OB is pretty awesome and totally ok with the fact I'm going for an all natural birth at the hospital. He understands why I wouldn't just do it at home and is cool with being hands off and just supervising. With DS I even pulled him out myself, my OB didn't even catch him Biggrin

That said, whatever happens will happen and I'm totally ok with it happening at home, but I'm still going to take advantage of a hospital stay ROFL

I'd not poked around this board much until I posted this thread, it looks like the place I should be aside from my due date board. So I'll be sure to read up and ask around. I switched OBs at around 14 weeks because I got the vibe from my original OB that he wasn't going to be ok with everything I wanted. My new OB is awesome, he has experience with natural birthers and is very supportive of it.

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I'm sure you've already thought of this, but could your mom or someone else stay with you for the last 2-4 weeks before your due date?
It really does sound like you're quite prepared though!

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Yeah, they can't Sad My mom works a kennel and has to be there from dawn to dusk to care for the animals and the rest of my family live an hour+ away in the big city(lol! that makes me sound so country!)

I have a best friend who has mentioned multiple times of coming to stay with me and helping out a bit after the baby is born, but that friend lives in europe and I don't want to bank on it happening kwim? It does sound like it will, but I'd hate to count on it and then it not happen... because that is so my luck!

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"Majka" wrote:

Does this look like the right PDF? I think it does to me http://www.rixafreeze.com/pdf/gregorywhite.pdf

Yes, that's it! Thank you. I've bookmarked it *and* saved a copy to my desktop. Blum 3

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"Spacers" wrote:

Yes, that's it! Thank you. I've bookmarked it *and* saved a copy to my desktop. Blum 3

awesome!

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Does your doc make you do kick counts? Starting at 28 weeks, my OB has me do these, where I basically lay down once every day and when you feel the first kick, you mark down the time. In one hour you should get at least 10 kicks, starting the time from the first kick and marking down the time when you get the tenth. If you don't get 10 kicks within an hour, get up, drink or eat a little something, then lay down and try again. If you don't get 10 kicks within the second hour, you're to get up and go straight to the hospital. She makes all of her patients do this because if there's decreased movement, something could be wrong with the baby, or it could be the sign of labor. Maybe you should do this, better to be safe than sorry...

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Sorry, I was out of town and getting DS ready for the 1st day of school.

No, my doctor hasn't mentioned anything like that, but it is ironic that I am reading this today. I've been having strange symptoms of I don't know what and considering calling my doctor. The baby seemed noticeably less active the majority of the weekend, I was having some cramping in my front lower pelvic area- but they were only along the surface of the front and no where else. Then I was having watery discharge and it all was keeping me awake some in the night.

I figured it was because I'd been swimming a lot over the weekend and decided to wait it out through today and see if it got any better. I still feel like something is off, but the symptoms have calmed down and he is slightly more active. I just have this gut feeling something is wrong, but don't feel like I have any hard reason to think that.

I listened to him on my fetal monitor and he sounded fine and moved around a lot, my stomach gets hard randomly and I have sharp pains in my cervix, but I've been having that for a month or so.

So I'm still on the fence as to if I should call him or not. I've been paying attention to his movements and he does have spurts of movement. I just had some banana and he is tossing and turning all over right now.

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Sometimes it's hard to figure out why we are feeling what we are feeling & if our worry is because something is wrong, or simply just a worry - something us moms are good at doing I think lol I have had moments in each pregnancy where I've wondered if something was wrong or not, usually this was triggered by lack of movement or change in movements. There were times where something really was going on, and other times where everything came back fine & baby was okay. I think if your concerned there's nothing wrong with talking to your provider about it, I would rather feel silly for nothing being wrong, than for something being wrong & me ignoring it to keep from feeling silly Smile

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I called my OB and am waiting for them to call me back.

So I guess we shall see if it is anything worrisome, or just my body doing what it did with DS and preparing too early for him to come(I was 3cm by 34weeks, he was born at 40w5d and came fast).

ETA: they called and said it didn't sound like anything too unusual, but if it changes any more to call back.

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Just wanted to update this and say my fears seem to be coming true.

I was in an accident yesterday and we are fine but my car is GONE. My 34w appointment was today and he checked me because things aren't seeming right down there.

I am a very loose 4, but baby station and effacement are ok right now. Except baby has been riding high the past few days, normally he is right on my Cervix and I know his station isn't good then.

So... now we are dealing with my car being totaled too. That friend I mentioned is indeed coming and tickets have been bought... for September 30 :/ hopefully he keeps baking!!!!

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:bighug: Keep positive thoughts, you don't need any negative energy making things worse. I'm sorry about your car, hope that gets settled ASAP.

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Oh my goodness, I'm glad you're okay. I hope that insurance takes care of your car so that you don't have that worry.

Do you think you dilated because of the accident or were you already dilating? Hopefully it stops and baby stays nice and high. I'm glad your friend is coming...that's a relief.

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I dilated early with DS, but not this much this soon.

I was a 1 at 25 weeks when I went to the hospital with some odd contractions back a couple months ago. I figured I'd dilate some more over time. I don't think it is related to the wreck, though I am sure the stress of that isn't helping.

I am SO glad the wreck didn't put me in labor though, or the baby would definitely be here now.

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Oh my I'm glad that you're OK, and so sorry about your car... I've totalled a car before and it's such a pain dealing with everything. Four seems like a lot this early for sure. Did he put you on anything to stop you from contracting anymore? Are you on bed rest?

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I think the dilation has been a very slow progression since 25 weeks when I went in and was 1cm.

I've been on modified bedrest since and he just reiterated the points and has me coming in a little sooner for my next checkup.

I think since my membranes are still good, I have not seen any plug loss yet, and that the baby waffles between high and low and definitely isn't engaged, that he seems not too worried right now.

Our goal is to make it to 37 weeks and then play by ear.