Not using a birthing technique?

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Not using a birthing technique?

Am I the only one that isnt using an assistance technique? IE: Hypnobabies/hypnobirthing, Lamaze, Bradley, etc. I just cant seem to fit into any of them, so I'm just gonna 'go with it' so to speak. I talked to my midwife about it last week at my appointment, she said that a majority of people use some type of program, but she said that there are people like me who just use instinct and signals from their body. She said it takes a certain kind of personality for that to work though, but she said that I seem like the type of personality that *could* handle it, so she said that she is not worried about me not having a program to follow.

Anyone else in this boat?

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This is me as well. I didn't use any sort of techniques with my first two and I'm not with this one either. I looked into hypnobabies, but I just honestly couldn't get really interested in it. I did fine the first two times dealing with it my own way, breathing through the contractions, etc. Whatever I needed to do, whatever position I needed to get into. It worked well for me.

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This is me as well. I just followed my own instincts and did what my body told me to do. I was very much inward, blocking out my surroundings. I just couldn't fit myself into one of the "programs" I was able to have beautiful natural births doing my own thing. So you are not alone!

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I didn't do any technique with DS nor am I this time around. With DS we took the class at the hospital taht is titled "Lamaze Prepared CHildbirth" but it isn't true Lamaze (the instructor said they call it that so insurance will pay for part of it). ANyway, with DS, I read a lot of books, birth stories, etc. I did read the mongan hypnobirthing book and listened to the 1-2 tracks that came with that...but I didn't take a hypnobirthing or hypnobabies class. This time DH and I read parts of some Bradley books in addition to the things we read with DS...and we took the refresher class at the birth center...but we have never taken one specific class.

when it came down to labor with DS, I just did what felt right to my body, which for most of the time was keeping my eyes closed (as pp said, very inward) and making noises. i picked the positions that felt good (though my doula suggested I try something else since I was standing a lot, she didn't want me to get too tired). more of my preparation was being aware of all the different "tools" (i.e. positions, birth ball, relaxation/visualization techniques) I could tap into and then doing that which felt right at the time.

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I use instinct and zone out into my happy place.

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Ok, glad to know I'm not crazy for doing it this way Smile

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"LMCH" wrote:

more of my preparation was being aware of all the different "tools" (i.e. positions, birth ball, relaxation/visualization techniques) I could tap into and then doing that which felt right at the time.

That's an important point, something that would have helped me more I think. I took the general class at the hospital, read some stuff, but overall didn't feel like I was really *prepared* as far as being familiar with different options for comfort such as different positions, breathing, etc. Once I was in the middle of labor, anything I'd learned went out the window- as some pps said, I also went very inward (my eyes were closed the entire time; I was so much "in another world" I honestly felt drugged, I was asking DH about things afterwards because I couldn't remember certain things happening!) but for me, it wasn't positive, I was just focused on the pain, the next contraction and I was fighting it. I would have benefited from being more familiar with my options, and from someone (DH or a doula) talking me through the rough parts and suggesting different positions or things I could try. To take my focus off the negative and onto a more constructive way of getting through it.

I don't think its weird at all though to not pick a "method", that's what women have been doing for millenia after all!

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For me I used Hypnobirthing that helped me train my body and my DH how to relax me. When it actually came down to labor I never used any tracks never used any of the techniques other than a visualization of a rose opening and comparing that to my body and cervix opening up and I never used any of the relaxation scripts. I mainly did what felt right to me in the moment. I am going to try hypnobabies this next time if it feels right when I get pregnant again but we'll see if I actually use it. The main the hypnobirthing did for me was prepare me and help me relax before birth.

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"HockeyTownMom" wrote:

I use instinct and zone out into my happy place.

Pretty much this. During transition and pushing I zone out and can really only see/hear my husband and kid(s). I just do what feels right. Last time I yelled so loud during pushing I think I freaked everyone out. But it's what my body wanted to do so I just let go.

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"kridda_88" wrote:

When it actually came down to labor I never used any tracks never used any of the techniques

This was me. I took a Hypnobirthing class and attended the child birth class my birth center offered. Once labor really started, I listened to my body and never once actively used any technique I had learned. So much of what the classes taught was review for me. I didn't need convincing that my body could do it and I wasn't afraid. But that was due to my personality, not the classes. You certainly do not need classes to have a wonderful natural child birth. In fact, I had a hard time wrapping my brain around the contradiction that these classes tell you that birth is something your body is programmed to do yet you need to pay lots of money to learn how to do it. I completely understand that our society has created a bubble of fear surrounding birth but I just chose not to buy into it (easy for me, not easy for others). If you have fear about child birth, you should probably take in any and all resources that you have access to.

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Well, speaking as a birth educator, I use my *own* technique, that I developed through my two births and then have worked on with other doula clients. I never found a system out there that felt 'right' for me, and so I just did my own thing. When I realized that it worked really well, I started teaching it. *shrug* You do what works. Smile The most important thing is to stay relaxed - if you're fighting contractions then it takes longer and it hurts more. If you have a system that you use now to relax, or are good at this in general, then you have no real need of a 'birthing system'.

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I didn't follow a certain program. I didn't feel like I was unprepared however. Things were made a lot easier by having a doula, a strong birth plan and I was well educated on natural birth. Once labour started I just followed my instincts and focused on relaxing.

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I did prepare with the hypnobabies program, but mostly to relax during pregnancy. I didn't use it during labour either time. I was glad to have it though.

I think for the most part, when labour hits no matter what preparation you've done or program you've learned, instinct takes over whether a mama wants it to or not. Labour and birth is a force of nature (the ultimate really) and when it's done without numbing meds, one can't help but follow their body's cues.

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Well, I guess I"ll soon figure it out without methods anyway Wink Water broke this morning, wish me luck. Smile

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OMG! Good luck to you - please keep us posted!!

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Good luck today!!
I did it without any method. I will say the first time I went into it 'open' to the epidural and then of course got it. Second time I was determined but had an awful nurse who told me I was 'only 6cm' when I was in transition and that I 'had a while' so I caved and got nubain (even though I HATE the stuff), BTW that was less than half an hour before my daughter was born. Third time was natural other than pitocin, which I was fine with. I didn't find the pitocin-induced contractions any worse than natural labor contractions with my other two, I don't remember what dose they had me on but it probably wasn't the strongest since I was already contracting when they started it.

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I used the Mindie technique. Which involved screaming as I felt like it. I wanted to use low grunts but the high pitched screeching worked fine..LOL

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You should look into Birthworks. They are all about how women bodies know how to give birth. The classes help you to let go of fear and embrace your body's natural function. I would read Active Birth too. I just finished that book and it is fabulous. It has a ton of practical advice, but is all about listening to your own body.

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Didn't read the 2nd page yet soooo good luck!

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Good luck!

I've never used any "technique" beyond doing what feels right at the moment. With my first I took prenatal classes and they did one class on relaxation techniques and labor/birth positions. I distinctly remember thinking, "what is the point? I'm pretty sure I will know what feels more comfortable." And I did.

Like someone else said, go with it. Don't fight the contractions. It makes it hurt more and slows process.

Look forward to hearing all about how things went!

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I didn't use any technique for either birth, and that worked well for me. I think getting familiar with different coping mechanisms is great, then just go with the flow.

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Me! My second was born naturally with no classes or techniques. I just decided to do it that way. I really didn't have too much trouble coping with the contrax. (yeah, I'm kind of late on this since apparently Sandra's water broke this morning)

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With DD#1 I used the "breathing" method they teach in the beginner intro to birthing classes here... I was fairly lucky in that my "labor" was hardly any work at all and I spent most of the time getting from 6cm-10cm at the hospital playing cards with my in-laws.

With DD#2 I used the "I'm being induced and its taking 18 hours of walking the halls of the hospital method" Which is to say... nothing happened until 15 mins before she was born... then it all went to heck as they say.

With DD#3 I used the "Been there Done that" Method and other than the excruciating pain from being turned into a hand puppet for 4 hours and having to have her turned at the last moment... it worked fairly well... the epidural took more calming breathing than the labor, I was scared to death to get the darn thing (first time)

This time I got the hypno birthing tracks, and mostly I use them to get to sleep. I don't know if I'll remember to bring them come birth time... we'll see!

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I don't have time to read all the responses, but I didn't use any specific technique with either of my labors. With my first, I just went with what felt right -- I ended up using a lot of breathing and meditation techniques from kung fu. With my second, I obviously knew what to expect a little more ;), but my labor was actually quite different. I used a lot of visualization, breathing, and music.

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With DS I didn't know what I was getting into, birth wise. I had a doula, who helped reminding me how to breath, and showing DH where to put pressure on my hips. She was a student doula. We decided just to go with it this time. I'm making a list of things for DH to do to help me, and what to tell the nurses. I know what I want, more or less. I would have loved to do hypno birthing, but couldn't afford it. I also would have loved to have a midwife, but I was too high risk. So we are going to wing it and hope for the best again.

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I don't use anything when I birth. I just "go with it" I tried hypnobirthing with my first (didn't do it for anything but the relaxation techniques.) After that, I just started going with the flow. This will be my 4th baby and 4th home birth. Smile