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What reading would you recommend for a husband...to educate him on the entire birthing process and to be a better help?

Thanks again ladies!

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Depends on the husband! And what you want him to learn...mine got "Dad's Pregnant Too" early on and that's a good fun book with real life tips and stories he appreciated--and it's funny, but it does have good basic information. And I think that he really liked that it was FOR HIM. For the natural birthing stuff, participating in Hypnobirthing/reading the book was REALLY helpful for my DH, and I also bookmarked certain sections for him out of Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering although I didn't think he really needed so much in-depth info on every tiny decision that he needed to read the whole thing cover to cover...

We also get Mothering magazine and he really likes to read that. There's a lot of good dad-specific and just interesting articles about both pregnancy and parenting.

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Get the Business of Being Born and have a movie night. If he is anything like my hubby, he will be disgusted. Also, the book "Pushed"

Those are the two resources I can think of. BOBB is probably where I would start though.

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My DH really liked the movie Business of Being Born and felt that it was very informative. He isn't as likely to read stuff I give him so the movie was a good start.

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I agree with the BOBB - it is what helped DH change his mind about things. Since then he has been much more open to reading things and being more active in this and already advocating for me.

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Well I watched the BOBB and that would let my DH know WHY i want to do what I want to do but....that is in no way going to educate on him on HOW he can help me do this.

That is more of what I am looking for. Like instructions on what specifically he can do to help me.

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All of my suggestions were geared toward that (the WHAT he can do.) I also really like the book The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth by Sheila Kitzinger. It's a regular overall comprehensive pregnancy and childbirth book, but her philosophy is pretty clearly geared toward NCB and there are a ton of different exercises and practice that partners can do in there (like touch relaxation, etc.) Here's the link to the latest version: http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Book-Pregnancy-Childbirth-Revised/dp/0375710477/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274809695&sr=8-1

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What if you watch some natural births together and point out what the mom's partners are doing. Like "See, watch how he (wipes her forehead, rubs her back, whatever)"

How was he with your other kiddos births?

Birthing from Within has some really good chapters in it too.

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"cactuswren" wrote:

All of my suggestions were geared toward that (the WHAT he can do.) I also really like the book The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth by Sheila Kitzinger. It's a regular overall comprehensive pregnancy and childbirth book, but her philosophy is pretty clearly geared toward NCB and there are a ton of different exercises and practice that partners can do in there (like touch relaxation, etc.) Here's the link to the latest version: http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Book-Pregnancy-Childbirth-Revised/dp/0375710477/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1274809695&sr=8-1

I am really liking the looks of this. Thanks a bunch! I am going to go and pick it up from our library this week.

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"TyrantOfTheWeek" wrote:

What if you watch some natural births together and point out what the mom's partners are doing. Like "See, watch how he (wipes her forehead, rubs her back, whatever)"

How was he with your other kiddos births?

Birthing from Within has some really good chapters in it too.

Well he was not around for Carli. lol I had 2 girlfriends there with me.

Alyssa was just a whirlwind. I never dilated past a 2 so I never got to the really hard stuff. Then we had the whole placenta issue so there was really nothing he could do but cry in fear with me.

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"leenoodle" wrote:

I am really liking the looks of this. Thanks a bunch!

You are most welcome. By the way, i have never seen this book myself so I can't vouch for it, but I just noticed it in the "Customers who viewed this item also buy..." section and thought it might also be of interest to you!

http://www.amazon.com/Birth-Partner-Third-Childbirth-Companions/dp/1558323570/ref=pd_cp_b_2

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I was going to recommend that same book. Though I haven't read it myself, I figure it would be a good one since it's specifically written for the partner. I've read most of another one by that author which was good (It was Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn:The Complete Guide)

I have a copy of the other one Leigh recommended. I like how it has so many pictures. It also talks about the whole pregnancy, not just the birth, so it is a good alternative to WTEWYE, which I despise.

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"MrsMangoBabe" wrote:

I have a copy of the other one Leigh recommended. I like how it has so many pictures. It also talks about the whole pregnancy, not just the birth, so it is a good alternative to WTEWYE, which I despise.

Ugh, ME TOO. This one is very honest, informative, and balanced, but definitely NCB-friendly. WTEWYE is none of the above.

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Liane, we have this book:
http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Childbirth-Bradley-Way-Revised/dp/0452276594

Some of the info is a little outdated and the pictures of the dads from the 70's are kind of comical, but this book is about "husband coached childbirth" and gives lots of things for the dads to do. It even has practice scripts. It helped us a lot.