So, all of my pregnancy books, and now my birth class teacher are recommending perineal massage. I'm hesitant, however. First of all, I can't actually reach to do it myself properly. My partner is more than willing to assist me (eager, actually), but he's a working man and his fingers are always rough. And, he'd be getting turned on, but I'd probably be all hung up on the discomfort factor - you're supposed to do it until it kind of hurts. It seems like it would be more of a chore than a turn-on. Has anyone done it? Do you feel like it helped? Was it more like foreplay than a chore? Any input is appreciated.