I was just wondering, has anyone ever compared their births/pregnancies to their sister's or mother's births to see how they compare? Was yours similar or completely different?
I have 3 sisters. Two of them have kids.
My older sister (skinny brunette) had two really quick births. When I say quick, I mean no labour pains prior to water breaking and baby born less than an hour later quick (about 45 minutes from water breaking to baby in each case). The first time she almost didn't make it to the hospital, the second time they went right away and made it fine. She also gained 60lbs with each birth, which kind of scares me!! She's much shorter than I though.
My younger sister (shorter, more chubby, weight and blood pressure issues) had troubles with both her pregnancies/births. The first she went way overdue (she did not have prenatal care - she is...odd, long story), had liver issues/jaundice and blood pressure issues and her son was born with birth defects (they still don't know the cause, maybe have been due to her lack of care/bad birth, but I don't know the details). Her second pregnancy was trouble from about 1/2 way with severe blood pressure issues requiring hospitalization from 25 odd weeks. She had to have an emerg c-sec at 32 weeks I believe.
My mother, aside from having many miscarriages and ectopic once, had 5 babies between 17 and 39 and I don't recall her having any issues or gaining a lot of weight. My youngest sister, who does not have any kids yet, was born with some kidney issues though that resolved quickly.
I'm a little overweight (not much, 15lbs for my height), but I do gain easily and it's very hard for me to lose. I'm scared because I have similar health problems to the sister who had pregnancy issues, (we both have severe anemia, acne, weight issues, but I don't have blood pressure issues at all). I don't want to gain 60lbs like my other sister either. I have no idea if I gained at all because I didn't weight myself at all in the last 6 months so I have no idea my pre-pregnancy weight. Right now I'm 185 but a year ago I was 175... It's been a hard year so I could have been 185 all along, or just gained 10lbs in the lat 8 weeks due to the fertility meds I was on and the progesterone now.
I'm also a little concerned about the fast birth part in relation to a home birth. Do I just let the midwife know my sister's history just in case?
Tough. I'm not sure how pregnancy/birth tendencies run in the family, except that m/s runs in the family.
My sisters don't have kids. My older sister has had one ectopic pregnancy. My mom had 4 babies (when she was 27-38 ). Some were easy pregnancies, some weren't. She gained 15lbs with one and 40-50 with another. BP issues as she got older. No m/c or anything. She had all of us within 2 days of our EDDs.
My first three were perfect pregnancies, except for HG in the first tri, at ages 23-27 (too soon to tell how this one will go). I started them all underweight and gained 22-26lbs and had no sugar or BP issues. I had my babies at 38+5 to 39+5 and my deliveries have been mostly pretty easy. My first I was induced (after SROM and no labor) and I fully dilated in 5 hours. I was told to expect my 2nd to be fast, but it was 7hrs from first contraction to birth. My third (another SROM) I dilated in <4 hours with pitocin. I've had 2 m/c out of 6 pregnancies.
So, no real pattern for us. I figure you might as well mention your sister's fast deliveries, but I doubt it means anything with how your pregnancies will go. Weight gain, too seems all over the board. Eat healthy food, but eat enough, and don't stress about it too much.
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12
Everyone on my mom's side of the family has had a range of medical issues with their births, but I went on to have a completely normal pregnancy and NCB (although I did have some early m/cs, but that's not a family issue). I don't think a lot of that is really heritable, but if it makes you feel better to mention it, I don't think it hurts.
I agree that a family history of items like those don't mean much IMHO. Something like PCOS or Endo do of course, but I've never read/heard a thing about weight gain or even high blood pressure during pregnancy being hereditary. Not saying they aren't, but just haven't heard of studies to back that idea.
I'm a planner too, but there is NO WAY to plan what your pregnancy is going to be like. Just eat healthy, light exercise and don't stress if you can help it!
I agree, just eat healthy, exercise, drink plenty of water and relax. Don't stress too much about weight gain. With my first, I gained 50 lb. I had the attitude that I was "eating for two" and just ate whatever I wanted. I did exercise (walked religiously every day). Once he was born, the weight came off really quickly, which it will if you are breastfeeding. But the extra weight did make late pregnancy a lot more uncomfortable.
This time around, I have gained around 45 lb. so far, but I was more fit before I started than with any of my other pregnancies. I have been going to karate class at least once a week (trying for 2-3). I also try to eat a balanced diet, though not always successfully. I am feeling much better this time around, other than nights, which are very uncomfortable at this point (37 weeks).
Deb ................. DH Norm
DS Caleb, 13 ...... DS Patrick, 12
DS Isaiah, 8 ......... DS Thomas, 7
DD Cherish, 6....... DD Emily, 7\18\13 ....... Ripple, 17
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