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    Hi, ladies

    General question for you. During my last (first) pregnancy, I spent pretty much every waking moment researching and preparing and generally living in the birth/baby world. As I'm sure is quite normal, this time around I'm feeling MUCH more relaxed about it all...but I also kind of feel like I'm probably forgetting things. If you did something like Hypnobirthing before, when did you pick it up again for another pregnancy? Did you do the whole course through again, or just refresh toward the end? I know every birth is different and I shouldn't just wander into this one like "Oh, I've got this..." so I'd love to hear your BTDT experience on subsequent pregnancies/births. Any tips?

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    I haven't done Hypnobirthing but I know with my second, I went through the book I did with my first (based on Bradley method) just to review. And I read Ina's Mays Guide and maybe something else. The third time around I read through The Birth Book by Dr. Sears and I wanted to read Birthing From Within and some others but couldn't find them at the library. I think just going over basic things would be fine; it might all come back to you!
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    Are there any books you didn't read last time that you wished you had? I did hypnobabies with Zoe as you know and on that group page many reviewed the course again at home by themselves. Going through it all week by week supposedly got them back into the frame of mind they had previously. It's not like you're starting for scratch at all, but maybe some sort of plan of action to get you back to that frame of mind.

    And seriously 17 weeks tomorrow?! WOAH!
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    yeah I quickly reviewed the hypnobabies book again and did the tracks like the last 10 weeks or so. Unless there is something specific you want to review/read a quick review of everything sometime after 30 weeks should do it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by alwayssmile View Post
    And seriously 17 weeks tomorrow?! WOAH!
    I know, right?!

    I think I'm going to start listening to my Hypnobirthing tracks at bedtime again after we get back from vacation (so I'll be like 23 weeks) DH and I were joking last night about how much he's looking forward to hearing Betty White's narcotic voice again (the lady really does sound like her! ). Maybe I'll pick up Birthing From Within. I have actually never read any Ina May (shocking, I know! )

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    Ooooo definitely read some Ina May! That'll have you feeling all birthy and empowered soon.
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    I was the other way around. My first pregnancy I felt very confident and relaxed, I read a few things while I was pregnant and I focused on my Bradley training, but I had a very laid-back attitude about it all and definitely didn't have baby on the brain 24/7. Probably because I was an older mom, I'd been waiting for this for close to a decade and had read everything along the way in that time, kwim? I already felt very confident in my knowledge and my decision-making. But then after a very traumatic first birth and hoping for a VBAC the second time, I read everything I could get my hands on, even things I'd already read, and especially things that dealt with fear and avoiding a c-section. That's why I went with Hypnobabies the second time when I was perfectly happy with Bradley the first, because of the fear-release scripts. I read lots of fabulous VBAC stories, lots of empowered moms making good decisions stories, I couldn't get enough of that in my second pregnancy, I really wanted to fill my mind with positive images of birth because my overwhelming primary thoughts about birth at that point were of pain, loneliness, fear, desperation. Even though I thought I'd healed, those thoughts came up again during my pregnancy. Definitely read some Ina May if you haven't already! I'm so done with having babies but I still love me some Ina May!
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    I completely understand that. There was a girl in my Hypnobirthing class who had had an extremely traumatic (involving mild brain injury to the baby, even) first birth, and at the first few classes when we saw/discussed what birth could and should be like, she just burst into uncontrollable sobbing--grief, really, over her first birth all over again. She had a LOT to work through, and I was so happy for her that she was able to do it.

    I was fortunate in that my birth was certainly not what I'd expected or pictured (muuuuch longer and more of a struggle, for sure!) but nothing even close to traumatic. So now I guess I kind of expect it to be like that again, which I know I can deal with, or easier (which most people keep telling me subsequent babies are). My only real fears are encountering something like stubborn posterior positioning, but they're kind of in the "well, we'll cross that bridge if we come to it" camp at this point.
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    Well I have only had one baby and it didn't go as planned, but I read Ina May early on in my pregnancy and re-read it towards the end and I bookmarked certain parts that were very inspiring to me and actually re-read those during early labor. I definitely think you can't over prepare, but if you are short on time, I'm sure you can skip the basics and read only those inspirational parts.
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