Question about helping baby engage

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Question about helping baby engage

Hello all, LOOONG time lurker (and stalker) first time poster here on BN. I'm not currently active on a BB pg.org, but I've been on pg.org since 2008. :wavehello:

Anyway, I have a question for a friend actually. After trying to do some research on my own I figured it might be smart to ask here since there is so much good experience. My friend is 41+1 with her second and facing induction on Tuesday thanks to the holiday making Thursday (her 42 week mark) not OK for the doctors. She really wants to avoid being induced, but her baby seems to be sitting too far forward to properly put pressure on the cervix to dilate. I figured this is somewhat common for multiparas. Her cervix is rather thin, but she is only 1cm dilated and it doesn't seem like it will continue to dilate with baby refusing to get into a good position. I checked spinning babies, but can't find a whole lot.

Any suggestions on positions and/or exercises. She has a Moby wrap, how does she go about using that in lieu of a maternity support belt?

Thank you so much for your help!!!

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It's common and normal for a baby to not engage till labor for 2nd time and more moms.
If the baby is leaning forward, she can use any woven cloth as support. I wouldn't use the Moby because it's stretchy and won't work as well as a woven fabric (like a table cloth). Can also use a ring sling - I've done this some!
EnWraptured DFW: Using a Wrap for Belly Support in Pregnancy

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Thanks for the link! I passed it along to her as well as one of my ring slings. Hopefully it gets things moving.

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ITA with the prior recommendation for a belly wrap. I'd add to avoid any reclining position and encourage forward shifting positions, like lean over a ball to watch TV instead of lounging on the sofa. Here's hoping she's had the baby by now! If not, and if she's uncomfortable with inducing on Tuesday, she should ask for a nonstress test and biophysical profile (NST/BPP) which will show whether baby is still doing well in there. If baby is good, then there's absolutely no reason to induce unless that's what she wants. Thursday is just another day on the calendar, it's not an expiration date!

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She had the baby early this morning! Healthy baby boy all natural :).

So related question, I am not quite 35 weeks along and my baby is very much dropped and his head is all pressed up on my cervix. It is giving me contractions and has forced me to slow things WAAAY down which has been challenging with a 2 and 3 year old. Should I be really avoiding the birth ball? It gives me a lot of relief when my hips ache, but am I exacerbating the situation?

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YAY for your friend! Smile

And I have no idea about your question. I can't make my body have contractions period. Blum 3

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Yeah made sure I didn't complain about my issues to her especially once she was nearing the 42 week mark. Hers refused to engage and that's all mine wanted to do. Her body barely gave her a BH, mine has them constantly with an occasional real one thrown in. I know it was disheartening for her, but she ended up having a 4 hour labor total so if that isn't encouragement I don't know what is! No tearing either :).

I'm doing occasional birth ball for now, my hips need it.

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That's great encouragement! Biggrin

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Andy I wouldn't worry about the birth ball too much unless you feel things pick up. I've never been told I couldn't use a birth ball to get more comfortable. I would just trust your body and do whatever helps the most without encouraging the contractions to pick up again.

I am SO thrilled to "meet" your newest little boy! Biggrin

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Try doing the "belly wrap" thing but down low around your hips to help hold them together more. And I also wouldn't worry about using the ball *unless* it seems to be making things worse.

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My last baby engaged around 35 weeks as well and man was it painful. I used my birth ball a lot and had the same worries so I asked my midwife and she said as long as I am just sitting on it I should be fine, no bouncing or things to encourage labor along. I made it to 38+2 before my baby came.

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So I was on the ball last night and thought of the no bouncing comment. Out of curiosity I tried a few little bounces and within a minute had a real (rather painful) contraction. Ha, I can only hope it is that easy once I'm ready for bub to come out.

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That's interesting that your body responded so quickly to the bouncing! As you said, it could be useful later on when you're ready for him to make his grand entrance. Smile

I keep thinking this LO is going to engage because he'll be so low and I'll have crazy tons of pressure, but then later his feet are up in my ribs again. Totally not concerned about it or looking for him to engage, but it keeps me on my toes. I was just pleased that my MW had to really feel for his head Monday.

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I can feel mine when he stretches he can brush my ribs but not really hit them if that makes any sense. It is nice compared to earlier this pregnancy when he was so high. He bruised my ribs around 27 weeks, and I was having difficulty breathing for a minute or two right after laying down. None of that now that's for sure. This is way more comfy except for the occasional hip pain.

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