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    DH and i have talked about it several times, but we cannot afford a homebirth midwife, and the nearest birth center as opposed to hospital is actually like 100 miles away, and too far for us to be willing to drive- especially since we dont know any of those professionals anyway, and dont want to risk spending all sorts of time and money to see if we do prefer their theories etc just to avoid ONE Dr out of 5 at this practice (he delivered DD, DH hates hit guts, didnt like his attitude or bedside manner)

    Did you do anything (especially anything that worked) to avoid the PITA hospital policies? Did a clear birth plan really help at all? did you take food with you to get around their "nothing to eat or drink" policy? i already know they do let you get around it pretty quick here, after me eating nothing for 12 hrs DD's heartrate didnt recover well, so they gave me apple juice and she must have been hungry, but i wonder if i had crackers would they try to take them away? did you just stay home as long as possible so by the time you got there they just had to catch?

    i'm torn between keeping it out in the open with the Drs that i do not agree and will not comply with certain policies, and playing dumb as my mom suggests. for example if a certain Dr is on call and i go into labor i just might not make it to the hospital... or will at the very last minute or something.
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    I think I lucked out with a pretty good hospital and a fairly short labor. They did let me eat popsicles the whole time, and had grape and apple juice (didn't sound good to me at the time but my husband had a LOT of grape juice, he was just struggling to stay conscious through the whole thing).

    We did not write a birth plan, we just made sure we knew what we wanted and what we'd make exceptions for. I doubt a birth plan would have helped- I went over my "birth wishes" with one of the providers at that practice, and they were super supportive- and ended up not being on call when the time came. The OB that WAS on call was pretty clueless about natural childbirth and certainly wasn't going to listen to ME about what I wanted to do, the thing that saved the day was some fantastic nurses who told the OB to chill.

    Do you have any options between various hospitals? I'd see if you can find a doula who is familiar with the hospital you are delivering at and maybe knows how to "work the system" a bit.
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    we had a doula and labored at home AS LONG as possible. I did pack sneaky snacks in my labor bag, but we were only there 2 hours before delivering, over an hour of which was pushing...so I didn't even open my labor bag

    we did have a birth plan, but it depends on your nurse, doc, how long you are there, etc. if that will be read, honored, whatever.

    eta: also one of my 2-3 fave doctors was on call that night...I was worried about a couple more. If the one doc you don't like happens to be on call when you go in labor, they really only need to be there to "Catch"...so hopefully you could avoid him otherwise.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jooniper View Post
    I think I lucked out with a pretty good hospital and a fairly short labor. They did let me eat popsicles the whole time, and had grape and apple juice
    That was my experience, too.
    Honestly, the doc did very little until I started pushing. It was all the nurse and she was in and out of the room. You could try to sneak some food in and eat it while they let you labor on your own.

    We didn't do a birth plan, but my Ob and hosp were pretty natural birth friendly.
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    Well I had every intervention possible because they made me feel like a bad mom for refusing.


    So.... I am staying the hell away from there this time!

    Also, with a VBAC there is no wiggle room from their policies so I would be kind of SOL even with a birth plan
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    If there's only one doctor out of five that you disagree with, then I don't see any problem with sticking with that practice. You can easily avoid appointments with one doctor. If he's on call when you go into labor, then I would personally take my chances with the hospital's resident and tell the nurse not to call him. If the resident turns out to be worse, you can always change your mind. Maybe by then someone else will be on call, or you'll be close enough that you don't have to deal with him for too long.

    My hospital also has a "no food" policy, but at least two nurses came in while I was being fed yogurt & neither of them said a word, that I can recall. Maybe it's because my midwife (she doesn't have priviliges, she accompanied us as a doula) was there & they leave homebirth transfer clients alone more, or maybe it's just an unofficially unenforced policy, I don't know. I do know that if anyone tried to take my snacks away, they'd pull back a bloody stump! I would definitely take your own food (easily digested proteins are best) and if you don't have a doula who can argue your case for you, then perhaps print out an article about why you NEED to eat during labor, in case a nurse catches you in the act & has a hissy fit about it. Their excuse is that, in the very unlikely event that you would require general anesthesia, having food in your stomach can be dangerous because you can inhale vomit. They fail to acknowledge that (a) you can be given anti-nausea meds orally or in your IV and (b) you will be intubated as soon as you're out. I had a c-section under general anesthesia less than three hours after a full meal. When the anesthesiologist asked if I'd eaten recently & I said yes, I asked if that was a problem. He said no, he just needed to know so he could make sure I got anti-nausea meds. I got two doses while I was being prepped.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spacers View Post
    Their excuse is that, in the very unlikely event that you would require general anesthesia, having food in your stomach can be dangerous because you can inhale vomit.
    Not having had a hospital birth... Does it ever occur to anyone that anesthetic can be avoided if you do eat - because then you won't be as over-exhausted and therefore require a c-section.
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    I would say stay at home as long as possible. Even if your water breaks because honestly they don't know when your water actually broke so they just have to take your word for it. Second my birth plan didn't have a chance to really make a difference because by the time the fully admitted me to baby was just barely over an hour. But here is the big thing you don't "have to" be seen by any doctor. You can refuse to be seen by him even if that means you deliver the baby on your own in the hospital bed. They can't make you see him. They also can't make you not eat. Yes the policy is not to eat but it's still your choice. I never felt hungry while in labor, through any of it so it wasn't a problem for me. But water on the other hand I wanted bad but I never got a break from the nurses to get any but the ice chips worked well enough. I just drank a gallon of water the moment I had William. lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kridda_88 View Post
    I never felt hungry while in labor, through any of it so it wasn't a problem for me.
    I never felt hungry, either, but my midwives fed me regularly to keep my strength up. I think it's important for your labor support team to keep track of when you ate, so if your labor lasts more than a few hours, they can suggest it to you. I don't think it would have ever occured to me to ask for food, but every time they offered something, I ate it.
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