I just saw the facebook status of one of the girls I knew in college saying how happy she is that she is being given the option to be induced at 39 weeks and now she is going to pick the baby's birthday. Her status was "liked" by 6 people, and the comments were all about how that's great for her and she's lucky. Ugh! It bothers me so much because 1) her OB obviously thinks there's nothing wrong with unnecessary inductions and is advising in favor of them, and probably not going over the risks, 2) this woman apparently hasn't researched the risks of induction or benefits of waiting for spontaneous labor, 3) the other women who commented, and mainstream culture in general, support the idea that doctors who offer induction prior to the due date are doing women a favor, saving them from the discomfort of late pregnancy and the stress of not knowing when their baby will come.
Ugh! Since when do we have the right to decide when a baby should be born? The school where I met this girl at was a religious school--doesn't she think that God knows better than her when her baby will be ready? Who do these doctors think they are!?!?
Okay, rant over. Thanks for listening. I just needed to get that out.
I think a lot of this is due to people just not knowing. Without places like this forum or friends who are educated on NCB, there is no way someone would know, especially when you are supposed to be able to trust your doctor to have your best interests in mind.
I was induced (post-40 weeks) but I was aware of many of the risks and it was not so I could choose the baby's b-day. But I realize now that there was so much I didn't know. It's like doctors today want to keep you in the dark.
I agree, it's just woeful ignorance. Unfortunately, it's really common in certain areas and cultures to get inductions- I know my sister in Utah got asked regularly "so when are you getting induced".... when she was 37 weeks!
I considered myself well-informed last time around, but I've learned so much more now about why it's important to be patient at the end!
That's one of the reasons I would stand up and shout at the TV watching "A Baby Story" when I was pg last time. I quit watching it because it mad me so mad. Now we don't get that station anymore, but I wouldn't choose to watch it this time around. It has happened to my SIL's through 6 babies!
I think the fact that people just don't know is what bothers me so much about it. That, and the fact that we really can't automatically trust doctors. I used to be a woman who did not know anything about birthing options--maybe that's why it's such a big deal to me. Learning about my childbirth choices in the third trimester of my pregnancy with my DD (which this forum was a big part of) was such an eye-opening experience for me, and I'm ashamed of how blind I was before. I want to fight against that kind of ignorance that I used to have.
It really is amazing how ignorant people are and at times like to be. It drives me up the wall.
Mommy to three gorgeous girls
at 6 weeks 22/10/09
The worst part is that, especially since she's being induced before 40 weeks, in all likelihood her story will go like one I saw through a friend of mine's status updates...
Day 1: Sister is being induced today- yay for a baby today!
Later on Day 1: Hmm...not progressing...no baby- breaking water!
Day 2: Still not progressing...upping pitocin, giving her two more hours....
Later Day 2: Baby not coming- emergency c-section is it!
Late Day 2: Baby is here! Mom and baby healthy! Thank goodness for great doctors!!!
(And I vomit in my mouth as I yell at the computer!!!!!)
I just wish we knew to trust our bodies, that we knew just how intricate a process birth is, and that we knew that we can't just blindly trust doctors!!!
Mara & Joel, 2009
It really is just SAD how little most people know about risks, etc. and how little trust most women have in their bodies.
oh, oh, I wanna join the rant.
My BFF is 32 and a half weeks pregnant. The baby is measuring a little big, but not too bad still. Her dr told her yesterday that she will probably go ahead and induce her at 38 weeks! BFF thinks she understands how this all works. She had her DS by induction at 38 weeks and thinks that it went so smooth because she was already dialating. So, as long as this time things are starting then it won't be any big deal. I am fully prepared to chain her butt to a chair in my basement if her dr keeps encouraging her to do this. She thinks she understands, but she really doesn't have a clue!!! I keep trying to explain to her that just because she is starting to dialate doesn't mean baby is ready and just because it worked once doesn't mean it will go as smooth this time! I just don't seem to be getting through to her, so I'm fully committed to kidnapping her to save her from herself......and her dr.
I'm so sick and freakin tired of hearing about how crazy I am that I don't trust the OB's. "Why would they do anything to put you in danger?" "They went to school for 8 years, they know everything!" "You think you know better than them" Well, as a matter of fact, considering that my dr's have both been men and I'm the only one of us that can actually birth a baby, why yes, I guess I do think I know better than them!!! I also trust that God knows better than them and didn't make us with some design flaw that makes birth a medical emergency.
I'm a little fired up right now. I just got my order from Amazon last night and the first book I picked up to read is "Born in the USA: How a broken maternity system must be fixed to put women and children first" by Marsden Wagner MD, MS. So, you can sense my hostility right now. I think I need to switch over to my Ina Mae Gaskin book and calm myself down.
I agree too that it is aggravating, but I think what pains me the most is that I was on that side once, not too terribly long ago. Now that I'm seeing things from the other side and the real research, not the crap ACOG puts out, I'm so incredibly frustrated.
The "baby is measuring big" thing always cracks me up. Like my sister's friend- got induced because the baby was measuring "over 10 pounds". 2 full days of painful and dramatic pitocin labor later (she's lucky she didn't get a c-section), her "10 pound" baby came out at just over 8 pounds.
I'm lucky, I get the full support from my husband because he has come to hate doctors- all doctors. So my normally squeamish husband is all for homebirth.