We aren't telling friends and family IRL yet (so, shhh if you are one of my IRL friends), but I am officially pregnant! But I'm doing things differently this time. After four home births, I'm going to use a hospital this time. A new hospital opened up a couple of years ago that really does operate more like a birth center. A great CNM was the first provider with a busy practice, so she was able to get policies written the right way from the beginning: no standard IVs or monitoring, most women give birth somewhere other than the bed, etc.
My reason for choosing a hospital birth includes my distrust of the homebirth midwives in my area. My SIL gave birth two years ago today and her midwife horribly mismanaged things. Her midwife said it was fine to stay home with a 34-week baby because "labor would get him ready to breathe" and he "felt big for his age." My SIL also had pre-eclampsia (which is probably why she went into labor) and was bleeding heavier than her normal period during labor. Her midwife dismissed both of these things as variations of normal. After a traumatic, last-minute transfer to the nearest hospital, my nephew was born dead. The NICU team revived him and he is a healthy boy today, but the whole experience has really turned me off to midwives who take a cavalier, "trust birth" attitude in the face of clear complications. My home birth mw would have handled things differently, but I'm just not feeling comfortable putting that much trust in one person in an out-of-hospital setting.
Aside from that, I've also had "watched pot" syndrome with my last two labors. I felt anxiety about calling people at the right time and then my labors slowed (one stopped) after people arrived. So the idea of just showing up is appealing. I'm not planning on a doula this time, either, because of the whole calling people thing.
I am going to use Hypnobabies again. I may or may not have another water birth, but I'll probably use the tub and/or shower during labor. Water is my friend.
Congrats! I'm so excited for you! I'm sorry you have such a distrust in the midwives around here. My midwife flat out said she doesn't believe in "home birth at all costs" and I feel completely comfortable that she believes that way. She isn't a full all natural minded and knows the doctors are necessary and NEEDED in some cases. What hospital is it that you are going to?
DS1-7/18/08, DS2-2/23/10, DS3 1/18/12
I'm sorry you and your SIL had such a bad experience with a midwife. It does make me a little wary of doing a home birth but I really do trust my midwife as she was the one encouraging me to go to the hospital when I had the kidney infection, about 24 hours before I actually went in to the doctor. Had I listened to her I wouldn't have been nearly as sick as I was. BUT I completely understand why you feel better about doing a hospital birth this time. I'm so happy for you though! Best of luck in your pregnancy and birth!
DS1-7/18/08, DS2-2/23/10, DS3 1/18/12
I'm terribly sorry about your SILs experience. That is just terrible and completely inappropriate for her to have not transfered to a hospital given all of what was going one (or any one of those things for that matter!). Just curious, what sort of licensing/registration protocols are there in your state??
Her partner was killed in a car accident a few months ago. Her partner felt bad about what happened, but the midwife my SIL hired kept blaming the whole thing on my SIL. The midwife also lied to the hospital staff about how things happened during labor. The blame and the lying made the trauma of the situation so much worse. My SIL asked if they should transfer, but the midwife said it wasn't needed and that everything would be fine if they stayed home. My SIL is the one who demanded transfer at 9cm. If they had stayed home there is no way my nephew would be here now. It took the NICU team a full five minutes to get him going. The midwife would not have been able to do that and neither would paramedics (but they would have arrived too late anyway).
I still believe that home birth is a safe option. BUT it's only safe when mothers and babies are appropriately screened and midwives transfer higher risk cases.
Yay!! I'm so excited for you Laura!! The hospital your delivering at IS wonderful, truly it's the closest homebirth hospital I've ever seen/experienced. If I were to deliver in a hospital again and I was close enough I'd go there in a heartbeat. I hope this pregnancy & birth goes well for you
Mama to 7 curious, wild & wonderful little ones ♥
Congratulations on your pregnancy, Laura! I hope this one is a boy!
I completely understand why you would be uncomfortable with homebirth after having a family member live through that experience! I have come across a lot of stuff about radical midwives making poor decisions in the past few months and it has caused me to evaluate my decision to plan a homebirth multiple times--which is good, because I want to be sure I am making the right choice. I am quite convinced that licensing should be mandatory in all states like it is here.
Hi, Laura. So excited that we share a birth board and a due date-- so fun!
Congrats to you!
DD 8.03, DD 6.05, DS 3.07, DD 5.09, and DS arrived 6.17.12